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DonaldM3 (South Carolina)
Posts: 132
Posted:
We had a situation today at our HOA pool. There was a 16 YO male using foul language; he was regularly using the word f___ . One of our female owners asked him to please stop and he responded β€œf___ you!” Another gentleman told him that that was not proper behavior with ladies and young children present. The 16 YO responded, β€œF___ you old man!”

This is not the first time this vulgar and disrespectful behavior has occurred. This young man is a member of a family that is renting. I don’t believe there is anything in our CC&R’s that cover this.

How can this be handled?
EdR1 (Pennsylvania)
Posts: 2
Posted:
Must everything be in the rules/by-laws/declaration to determine how to handle a problem?

He is a teenager who is testing his limits.

You could:

a.) Forget about it and not have your home and car egged.

b.) Go talk to his parents about the youth's unacceptable public behavior.
CharlesF4 (South Carolina)
Posts: 7
Posted:
Yes, I suppose talking to his parents should be the first option.

However it it happens again you could revoke their pool privildges for 2 weeks.
He probably won't obey the revokation of priviledges anyway.
You could call the police. They will confront the minor and take him home to his parents. You should ask for an incident report to be filled out.
JohnB7 (South Carolina)
Posts: 176
Posted:
You could beat the punk into a bloody (but not seriously injured) puddle and wait for vindication by a jury of your peers.
AnnaD2 (Florida)
Posts: 960
Posted:
John, I like your idea best.

What do your pool rules say about this? Ours have a rule that states:

Behavior that is deemed inappropriate or disruptive to anyone in, or around the pool area is prohibited.

The kid obviously has no respect for anyone. He disrespected an older gentleman. I'd suggest that the next time he's out there a group of "younger" men appear, listen, surround him and show him who's boss.

Stupid punk.
JohnB7 (South Carolina)
Posts: 176
Posted:
Unfortuneately, the HOA's only recourse is against the OWNER not the renter.

Since guests are allowed at the pool it becomes a (?class B?) public pool.

Profanity and lewd behaviour is a crime when committed in a public place.

CALL THE POLICE and insist on an incident report !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FINE THE OWNER FOR FAILING TO COMPLY WITH THE RULES.

He IS responsible for the actions of his tenants.
AnnaD2 (Florida)
Posts: 960
Posted:
Again John----good, sound advise!
SusanW1 (Michigan)
Posts: 5,202
Posted:
Because he is a minor, I'd relate the incident to the parents and give them a warning.

If it happens again, then start your police involvement or other violation steps. Tell the parents this will be done.

The parents need a chance to deal with this potty-mouth first.

DonaldM3 (South Carolina)
Posts: 132
Posted:
One of the other board members has talked to the police. They said to call them next time and they will deal with him. I would think that means there will be an incident report. I do believe that is the best route. This young man has caused other problems.

Other HO’s certainly do have the right to enjoy the pool with their family w/o such verbal abuse.
DonaldM3 (South Carolina)
Posts: 132
Posted:
Thanks all for your great answers!!
DonnaS (Tennessee)
Posts: 5,671
Posted:

Donald,

I guess that because of my age and the road that I have traveled, being nice to this turd is not my option. Revoke the pool privledges, notify the owner asap, send a letter to the parents, call them before the Board and basically, slap the crap out of the attitude. He is 16 and this mean and disrespectful now and by next year he will have a record or worse. The owner of the unti has got to intervene and put them on notice
MicheleD (Kentucky)
Posts: 4,491
Posted:
Do your governing documents contain a nuisance clause?

You can very likely define his behavior as a nuisance and go after the owner to see that the renters correct the behavior.

That would be in addition to the suggestion above about police involvement.

EdR1 (Pennsylvania)
Posts: 2
Posted:
In my opinion, the right thing is to talk with the parents first and give them the chance to fix it. If you bring in the police, the kid could do something to get himself in worse trouble.
MicheleD (Kentucky)
Posts: 4,491
Posted:
It's been my experience when you talk to the parents first, they generally don't "deal" with it in a socially acceptable way. In fact, they generally also tell you to F____ off.

This kid not only learned the behavior somewhere, but he's apparently quite comfortable peeing in his own sandbox.

If the OWNER talks to the parents, then that's where it should come from.

The HOA should not be the ones addressing the renters. It's the owner's responsibility to see that the renters abide by the covenants.

And the police are pretty adept at "handling" these sorts of things.

The way it works here is they generally speak to the parents directly, but they carry more credibility and are less likely to be "retaliated" against.

So I still would:

1) Use the police (especially since they are in the loop and know what they need to do).

2) Contact the owner to have him refrain his renters from violating the nuisance clause of the covenants.

JohnB7 (South Carolina)
Posts: 176
Posted:
Quote:
Posted By EdR1 on 06/20/2009 8:09 PM
In my opinion, the right thing is to talk with the parents first and give them the chance to fix it. If you bring in the police, the kid could do something to get himself in worse trouble.

...and you care about this brat.........WHY?

Lawbreakers should be dealt with by the police right away.
JohnK3 (Pennsylvania)
Posts: 967
Posted:
"Kids!
They a disobedient, disrespectful oafs!
Noisy, crazy, dirty, lazy, loafers!
While we're on the subject:
Kids!
You can talk and talk till your face is blue!
Kids!
But they still just do what they want to do!
Why can't they be like we were,
Perfect in every way?
What's the matter with kids today?"

KIDS, from the musical "Bye-Bye Birdie."
RobertR1 (South Carolina)
Posts: 5,164
Posted:
Tell me, is there common property involved? If so, the Board can exclude anyone they want if their conduct is offensive or dangerous. Calling the cops is an option but you will be left with who is going to file the complain unless the kid takes a swing at the cop. This problem must be addressed by the Board and a Policy adapted rather than trying to deal with the individual each time it happens. The policy should spell out the conditions, specify fines and provide for follow up action. Because the person is a renter makes no difference, they still are bound through the owner to conduct themselves in the same manner all the homeowners are compelled to, by law. You may not be able to collect a fine from the renter, but renters live under the same contract that owners live under.

At least in my SC documents. Provision are instilled that charges the homeowner for responsibility and provisions are included that are specific as to conduct and decorum and they have nothing to do with who is breaking the rule. If this was an owners kid, would you not call the police for the same offense? Surely you would not say a homeowner (kid) can break the rule but a renter kid can't. Nor would you say a homeowner can be abusive but a renter can't. I would also suggest that the regime Renter Policy be looked at and re-enforced if necessary.
MicheleD (Kentucky)
Posts: 4,491
Posted:
Robert,

It's my understanding that this behavior occurs at the community's pool, which very likely is common area property.

The original poster has also revealed that a board member has already spoken to the police about this and they (the police themselves) recommended that the community contact them the next time this occurs and they will deal with him.

If they are anything like the police in our neighborhood when something like this occurs, what they will most likely do is escort the young man home to his parents and encourage them to escalate his instruction in proper behavior in public social situations.

They will probably write an incident about it, but, unless the kid is also into petty crimes that might be discovered in the course of "dealing" with the incident, that's probably all that will happen at that time.

Homeowners respond better (more appropriately) to that sort of authority than they do a member of the board.

If anyone is to speak to the parents about the boy, it's probably best if it's a friendly member of our local law enforcement.

Again, I'm basing this on how things like this have worked out in our HOA.

We don't have a pool, but we have a lake, and we have "frisky" teenagers there. We have gotten the situation under control by doing exactly that, calling the police and having them do some one-on-one "neighborhood outreach."

It has worked out very well.
BrianB (California)
Posts: 2,820
Posted:
remember that using cattle prods in close proximity to water can be dangerous to both the user and the prodee.

so, wait until the little mucus bag is on a dry surface so you don't harm yourself.
JohnB7 (South Carolina)
Posts: 176
Posted:
Quote:
Posted By BrianB on 06/22/2009 11:13 AM
remember that using cattle prods in close proximity to water can be dangerous to both the user and the prodee.

so, wait until the little mucus bag is on a dry surface so you don't harm yourself.

.38/.357 #9 shotshells are safe to use near water

(this is merely a fact, not a suggestion)
MikeS1
Posts: 521
Posted:
Many states (like Virginia) have curse and abuse laws. We've seen this happen many times and if the offended individual goes down and swears out a warrant, it's pretty much a $500 fine and a misdenmeanor violation. It's not a all uncommon. I personally know two people where this has happened recently. Even a hand jesture will suffice.

The next time that it happens to me, my cell phone or voice recorder is going to capture it and I'm going to file. There's no reason for anyone to treat other people in that manner.
RobertR1 (South Carolina)
Posts: 5,164
Posted:
Good post Mike,
I could not agree more, and since there is a law on the State Books, I see no reason it could not be made part of the association rules that should be posted at the pool if a problem exists, which apparently, it does.

This may also make the other homeowners a little less timid and will start demanding proper decorum on their property. This is a instance where things are allowed to slide because of lack of knowledge. I am including myself in this condemnation. It happens all the time and we should learn a lesson here.
MikeS1
Posts: 521
Posted:
Thanks Robert - We have this posted in the pool rules as well and the lifeguards have all the power that they need. At their descretion, they can ask anyone to leave the pool at anytime and we back their decisions in full.
AnneH2 (Florida)
Posts: 82
Posted:
Quote:
Posted By JohnB7 on 06/20/2009 3:11 PM
Unfortuneately, the HOA's only recourse is against the OWNER not the renter.

Since guests are allowed at the pool it becomes a (?class B?) public pool.

Profanity and lewd behaviour is a crime when committed in a public place.

CALL THE POLICE and insist on an incident report !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

FINE THE OWNER FOR FAILING TO COMPLY WITH THE RULES.

He IS responsible for the actions of his tenants.

I would say that FORTUNATELY the HOA's recourse is against the renter- at least they are evictable (is that a word?!) I say this BC the term of the lease is for one year and dealing with the owner, fining if allowed, repeated correspondence when the events occur, etc. should influence the owner's decision to not renew the lease.

Your post is right on, IMO.

Too often I think we try to work with the renter without making the owner accountable for their tenants. (At least I have been gulty of this in the past. Having been a renter myself, I felt that they should have the first shot at addressing the situation.

I agree that you should call the police and notify the owner every time. Fining, if allowed, is also good. Even if collecting on the fine is near impossible, the owner has to be inconvenienced to the point of not renewing the lease. I am involved with a similar situation and the owner is now filing for eviction of the tenant. This is costing the owner money and, hopefully, will make the owner more discriminating when selecting the next tenant.

I wouldn't give the tenant a free ride, however, but would CC them every time the owner is contacted. With out of control kids, often the parents have to be inconvenienced before they will do anything. In my situation, the sheriff's office has been wonderful and the owners responsive.
AnneH2 (Florida)
Posts: 82
Posted:
I rereading my post, I think my first statement was not clear. I meant that it is good that it is a renter and not an owner causing the problems, BC it's easier to make a renter go away!

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