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Posted By ElleN on 07/11/2024 8:33 AM
Posted By SheliaH on 07/10/2024 7:31 PM
He knows
I disagree.
You have been reading here for years. You say you served on a board for years, including significant time as treasurer. You "know," but does MarkS44? MarkS44 sits there presumably reading this "salad" of responses, a number of which wander off into the weeds and ignore the OP's facts and question.
I do not understand how MarkS44 could "know" at all which responses would actually help.
I know I would be disgusted as all get-out with this board. Harassment is common at HOAs. Some of it does have to be tolerated, in my experience. But sometimes, a line is crossed. It sure sounds like the line is either close to being crossed here, or it has been crossed.
The advantage of MarkS44 not just taking this is he could help the association in general be a better institution.
If MarkS44 wants a draft of a demand letter lite, I hope he will post back and say so.
Well, he hasn't replied back, so unless you're a mind reader, you don't know either. Perhaps he IS taking some of these suggestions and will post later to report what worked or didn't. He doesn't have to take your suggestion or mine - as long as the problem gets resolved, I'm happy for him. But if the line is crossed, as you said, you're correct that stronger action will be necessary and that can be scary. That's when you do the cost-benefit analysis, as Cathy noted, to determine if you want to start the fire and accept what may happen next. No one approach will resolve the problem - you may need more than one, but you have to start by doing something.
YOU even said "The OP and everyone here knows what the HOA should do. The HOA will not do it." When people cannot or refuse to do right, you have to prod, persuade and sometimes threaten to make the changes you want. Anyone reading this website for even a little while learns that in some cases you may need to consult a private attorney. If you're read any of my posts (and I know you have under your old ID) you recall that I've suggested plenty of times that posters discuss the issue with their neighbors and then all of them go to the next board meeting and demand answers. It's easy for a board to blow off one homeowner - these people may think Mark's being too sensitive and should get over it. However, there are ways people can express themselves without getting ugly, and this homeowner needs to be reminded of that. If the board won't do it for whatever reason, it's up to the homeowners to remind THEM there should be decency and order, even if you have a discussion about a controversial subject.
Mark said this guy has shot off his mouth at other people, so I suspect he's not the only one who's annoyed with this behavior. Even if he is, there's power in number, although sometimes it takes some work to get it organized and them execute it. How many times have you read about others on this website (like Kerry) who got up and worked with their neighbors to turn things around? Even Terri has been successful in the lawsuits she's filed against her board. I don't always agree with her on various issues, but at least she's not sitting there wringing her hands.
If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius