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MarkS44 (Washington)
Posts: 16
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The HOA uses an email list that is used to address all community members. Our Articles and Bylaws only address postal mail and meetings as an official way to communicate with the community. The mass emails often have replies to them. Usually negative. One particular member uses the mass reply to spread lies and openly disparage myself - to a lesser degree other members. I have asked the HOA to take this hostile member off the mass email list. They won’t. They feel it would not be, “fair”, to the hostile member. They can still postal mail this member notices.

Can the HOA be held liable for offering a forum for a member to lie, disparage and slander? Anyone here have any experience with this? Can I file slander without an attorney?

Thank you,

Mark
MarkM19 (Texas)
Posts: 1,459
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Mark,
First, I am not a lawyer and I doubt one would give you free advice on this site. I am a board president and have been for a very long time on 2 different boards. Mass communications should be one-way notes with not reply to options. Not sure who set your up but that is a recipe for disaster. Fix it asap or take it down till it is fixed.

I think it would be an error to take one member of an owner's distribution list. Don't cause more problems that sounds like discrimination. You mentioned that the docs do not mention email, and most won't since most HOAs were around well before email became a way of communication. You will find have them updated much harder than correcting the procedure to not allow responses.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By MarkS44 on 07/09/2024 2:29 PM
Can the HOA be held liable for offering a forum for a member to lie, disparage and slander? Anyone here have any experience with this? Can I file slander without an attorney?
Yes to all. You should send a "demand letter lite," for starters.
KerryL1 (California)
Posts: 14,550
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Are you on the board, MarkS? If so, what do your state statutes require to keep ownrs informed, etc?
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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Posted By MarkS44 on 07/09/2024 2:29 PM
The HOA uses an email list that is used to address all community members. Our Articles and Bylaws only address postal mail and meetings as an official way to communicate with the community. The mass emails often have replies to them. Usually negative. One particular member uses the mass reply to spread lies and openly disparage myself - to a lesser degree other members. I have asked the HOA to take this hostile member off the mass email list. They won’t. They feel it would not be, “fair”, to the hostile member. They can still postal mail this member notices.

Can the HOA be held liable for offering a forum for a member to lie, disparage and slander? Anyone here have any experience with this? Can I file slander without an attorney?

Thank you,

Mark

It would not likely be defamation (slander is the spoken word whereas libel is the written word) because publishing a falsehood must be to a public audience not a closed group like an HOA email list.
LetA (Nevada)
Posts: 2,679
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You should send your emails so it is send only and no recipient can reply to the sender or anyone on the list.
Save that drama for a FB group and Oprah!
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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If it’s the HOA’s forum, the board should adopt posting rules and enforce them.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/09/2024 7:40 PM

It would not likely be defamation (slander is the spoken word whereas libel is the written word) because publishing a falsehood must be to a public audience not a closed group like an HOA email list.
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It can be one person and legally count as slander.

A HOA email list most certainly is a venue where defamation could occur and where the writer and the HOA could both potentially be held liable.

The three questions to ask are

-- whether the harm the OP suffered (1) can be quantified in dollars, pursuant to case law standards; or

-- whether the defamation is perhaps defamation per se (which is state dependent)

-- whether the HOA Board is stupid enough to want to risk testing this in court instead of just doing the easy and right thing (meaning use BCC).
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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Another AI mistake.

Libel won’t fly in a closed private email group whether per se or not.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/09/2024 8:04 PM

Libel won’t fly in a closed private email group whether per se or not.

People can look this up easily and see how wrong you are.

The problem is you think "publication" for the purposes of defamation means one thing. In fact, it means another.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Since TerriS6 asked for the AI answer to "when does defamation occur," here it is:

Defamation is the publication of a false statement that harms someone's reputation. It can occur in many situations, including:

Libel: Written defamation, such as published or broadcast statements

Slander: Spoken defamation

Internet defamation: Also known as cyber-libel, this is the publication of false statements online

Conduct: Can also be defamatory if it conveys a defamatory message, such as when security removes a co-worker from work premises.

To prove defamation, a plaintiff must show four elements:

-- A false statement that claims to be fact

-- Publication or communication of the statement to a third party

-- Fault, such as negligence or malice

-- Damages, or harm to the reputation of the person or entity being defamed

State laws often define defamation in specific ways. For example, a 1948 New York case called *Gregoire v. G.P. Putnam's Sons* noted that mass publication should encourage courts to reexamine how defamation claims are considered and how publishers are protected.


As a brief introduction to defamation law, the AI answer is fine.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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Still lying as usual, keep wasting everybody’s time with AI which is worthless in this context.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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I paid a very expensive, well known law firm for this advice and I’m passing it along for free. It’s an important piece of the defamation puzzle.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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Whether or not it fits the legal definition of defamation, the HOA is liable for anything published in its official channels - and that includes statements made by the membership to the membership. A mailing list (paper or electronic) or social media page that is used to communicate HOA business to the membership is almost certainly an official channel. This is one reason why our attorneys strongly discouraged the use of any platform that allows homeowners to post freely. The fact that the platform is closed to outsiders does not limit the HOA's liability.

As ElleN pointed out, it's one thing to show that someone is saying nasty things about you. Proving defamation is hard, and proving damages is harder. And it's surprising what is considered opinion that's protected by the First Amendment. "Joe Shmoe is a stupid crook" is OPINION. "Joe Shmoe robbed the gas station up at the corner on July 1 2024" may be defamation. But to win a defamation suit, Joe will have to prove that he didn't rob the gas station on that date, and he'll have to prove that the accuser knew that he didn't rob the gas station and accused Joe anyway in front of others. If it turns out that the accuser sincerely believes that Joe robbed the gas station on that date (it was actually Joe's twin), then that's not defamation. It's a really hard to win a defamation lawsuit.

There's also something known in legal circles as "the Streisand effect". Years ago Barbra Streisand was upset that a photographer was taking photos of her home and publishing them to a very small audience. So she took legal action against the guy. The resulting publicity let the entire world know that there were photos of her home, so that tiny audience ballooned into Everybody.

So taking action against an accuser can easily do more damage to the victim than the original accusation.

You also have the usual issue that you run up against with people who stir up dirt: they want the drama, and responding to them gives them exactly what they want. If you reward certain behaviors, you'll get more of them. Often the best way to discourage bad behavior is to ignore it.

*****

Back to Mark's original question:

The pandemic has encouraged many states to allow electronic communication of official HOA business, including online board meetings. There may still be some exceptions, such as requiring snail mail for annual meeting notices or collection and disciplinary actions (the legal stuff, in other words). Routine communications by email may well be OK regardless of what the governing docs say, since state law can override them.

The bad thing about electronic communications is that they allow people to say stupid stuff and shoot themselves in the foot with blinding speed. It's also a medium that, thanks to social media, has normalized rude and antisocial behavior.

So if I were in Mark's HOA, I'd be strongly encouraging the board to have a word with the association attorney about the risks they're running of allowing the membership to post anything to official channels. One-way communication from the board and/or community manager is fine - it's great, in fact, because of the speed and low cost of transmitting useful information. But if the board insists of making life hard for themselves, then they need to:

* have the attorney write up a Terms of Use policy for the electronic platform

* add some additional verbiage to the rules and regulations that addresses penalties for violating the Terms of Use

* enforce the Terms diligently

The function of the Terms of Use policy is to minimize liability. It must be enforced, otherwise it's just a piece of paper that won't minimize anything. The enforcement needs to include deleting of posts that violate the Terms and removal of access for anyone who repeatedly violates the Terms.

Given that you need to remove the repeat offenders' access, it should be clear that this sort of platform is not suitable for transmitting information that the HOA is obligated to provide to everyone.

It should also be clear that babysitting a platform that allows users to post is time-consuming and constant. Frankly, board members' time is usually limited, and they have more important things competing for their attention. It should be obvious that the potential downsides of using an interactive platform can easily outweigh any benefits it provides - and often does. Hence our attorneys' warning about avoiding this particular land mine.

If I were on the receiving end of false accusations, I'd probably ignore them unless they rise to the level where damages are assumed - eg. accusations of criminal behavior related to my profession. If I were concerned, I'd consult my own lawyer about steps I should take to protect myself. A cease and desist letter from my lawyer may be enough of a wake-up call to the board that they're flirting with trouble here.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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With 'libel per se' the plaintiff does not have to prove damages because it is libel 'on its face.'
Using Cathy's example, so and so is a crook probably is libel per se because you have stated as fact he is a criminal.
The problem for the plaintiff lies in the setting because it is a closed group all belonging to the association.
And no associations should not provide social media platforms.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/09/2024 8:31 PM
I paid a very expensive, well known law firm for this advice and I’m passing it along for free.
On the subject of what "publication" means for the purposes of defamation, you misunderstood whatever attorney with whom you spoke.

People can google and see a guzillion law firm sites, case law sites and other legal sites and see that "publication" for defamation purposes means communicating to any third party, be that party in private to one person, in private to a group of people, or in public to millions of people.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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I also think there's some confusion about the nature of a closed group and who exactly the third party is.

If the BOA as a legal entity is being accused of something, then can be reasonable to define "third party" as someone outside of the membership. So it's significant that an electronic platform is closed to anyone who is not a member.

But if individual members are posting defamatory accusations against another member, then in the victim is an individual person and the rest of the membership are all third parties. It's a completely different situation.

It's always risky to generalize statements from lawyers without knowing the exact context, in detail, to which the statements applied - and even riskier to apply those generalizations to different contexts. Given how nitpicky the law is, down to the punctuation, you generalize at your own peril.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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Also, if the plaintiff is a board member, he would likely be considered a quasi-public figure in which case it would be even harder to prove defamation. He would also have to prove malice, that the claimed defamatory statements were made with the knowledge they were false.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/10/2024 6:57 AM
With 'libel per se' the plaintiff does not have to prove damages because it is libel 'on its face.'
Using Cathy's example, so and so is a crook probably is libel per se because you have stated as fact he is a criminal.
As CathyA3 indicated, saying "Director Jones is a crook" all by itself is not going to qualify as defamation per se unless the speaker/writer makes a specific accusation of the crime allegedly committed and other requirements are met. One requirement is that the assertion has to be false. For example, if the speaker/writer says Director Jones stole money from the HOA reserve fund, and Jones actually did steal money, then there is no defamation.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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If you can, post some published cases where a plaintiff was successful in a defamation claim against another member in a closed association internet group.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By CathyA3 on 07/10/2024 7:03 AM
I also think there's some confusion about the nature of a closed group and who exactly the third party is.

If the [HOA] as a legal entity is being accused of something, then [it] can be reasonable to define "third party" as someone outside of the membership.
No, "third party" is "third party" as I gave it above. If a forum is open to only owners, and Owner Smith asserts that the HOA is stealing money from owners by paying for directors' cars, this passes the "publication" requirement for defamation.

Here is one of many sites saying exactly this:
https://www.minclaw.com/legal-resource-center/what-is-defamation/defamation-corporations-partnerships/
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/10/2024 7:07 AM
If you can, post some published cases where a plaintiff was successful in a defamation claim against another member in a closed association internet group.
Find me just one law firm site that says the general legal rule for "publication" is what you say it is.

I can find you dozens that say "publication" here is what I say it is within five seconds.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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There is a reason the first line of defense a defendant will take in a defamation case is to file a SLAPP suit. Strategic lawsuit against PUBLIC PARTICIPATION.
Also, one need only liken a plaintiff to a criminal for there to be defamation.
TerriS6 (California)
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Posted By ElleN on 07/10/2024 7:16 AM
Posted By TerriS6 on 07/10/2024 7:07 AM
If you can, post some published cases where a plaintiff was successful in a defamation claim against another member in a closed association internet group.
Find me just one law firm site that says the general legal rule for "publication" is what you say it is.

I can find you dozens that say "publication" here is what I say it is within five seconds.

Your routine source of information: Google and AI
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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You're welcome.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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Look up "common interest privilege."
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/10/2024 7:19 AM
There is a reason the first line of defense a defendant will take in a defamation case is to file a SLAPP suit.
About a third of states have no SLAPP statute.

Second, whether a certain SLAPP statute can be used as a line of defense depends on the state. These SLAPP statutes vary widely with regard to what they say.

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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/10/2024 7:19 AM
Also, one need only liken a plaintiff to a criminal for there to be defamation.
Yeah, dig in to an untenable position. There is a name for the psychological phenomenon where a person is unable to admit they got something wrong and deludes themselves into thinking their credibility is heightened the more time they repeat a lie: "Escalation of commitment."
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By TerriS6 on 07/10/2024 7:21 AM
Posted By ElleN on 07/10/2024 7:16 AM
Posted By TerriS6 on 07/10/2024 7:07 AM
If you can, post some published cases where a plaintiff was successful in a defamation claim against another member in a closed association internet group.
Find me just one law firm site that says the general legal rule for "publication" is what you say it is.

I can find you dozens that say "publication" here is what I say it is within five seconds.


Your routine source of information: Google
Why is it you have a problem with what law firm sites and case law sites say?

Why is it you conveniently forget how you yourself often cite law firm sites and case law?

Why don't you put up (or shut up) something, anything that says "publication" for the purposes of defamation law is what you say it is?

Do you realize how low your credibility is around here?

Nice hijacking of the thread once again.
TerriS6 (California)
Posts: 3,284
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Look up "common interest privilege."
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Read.
JohnC46 (South Carolina)
Posts: 14,265
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Is there a way to send a mass Email that one cannot respond to?
SheliaH (Indiana)
Posts: 6,964
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In addition to Cathy's recommendation, YOU can consider taking your own legal action against this person since you're the one he seems to be mad at. The guy doesn't seem to realize that his going off on you was exposed to the entire community, showing he's not very bright. Whether or not you can prove your case and win is another matter, so even if you can go after the guy in small claims court, it wouldn't hurt to chat with an attorney.

Meanwhile, I do hope you screen shot all this stuff, capturing the time and date stamps. Perhaps a strongly worded letter of your own telling him to rethink letting his mouth (or fingers in this case) write a check his ass can't pay (with a copy to your attorney) will cool his jets

If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius
JeffT2 (Iowa)
Posts: 880
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Make a set of policies for the board to include in the emails (at the end), such as:
Be polite, not ALL CAPS, no self promotion (spam), only HOA related, no personal attacks, and most importantly: violators will be removed from the list. You can find more of these policies by doing an internet search. Make sure that the board agrees on the policy and removing those who violate the policies (after a warning).
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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Just came across this blog post that's related to this topic:

Managing Misinformation on Social Media

The blog post deals with platforms created by homeowners that are not official HOA sites but can give the mistaken impression that they are official. But the issues around inaccurate information are similar and may need a similar response. If nothing else, this gives boards a better idea of what they should avoid on the HOA's sites.
TimB4 (Tennessee)
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Posted By MarkS44 on 07/09/2024 2:29 PM
The HOA uses an email list that is used to address all community members.

What one has to do is understand the use of Blind Carbon Copy (BCC) with emails.

If you address an email to yourself (or someone else on the board) and then add all HOA members as BCC the info is sent to all. However, any replies are not sent to the BCC recipients.
LayaS (Nebraska)
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Posted By TimB4 on 07/10/2024 12:03 PM
See: Using the Blind Carbon Copy (BCC) Feature in Email from the University of Pittsburgh

That is good information Tim. Just think if MelissaP1 was still posting. She was such a regular poster for years. I haven't seen her posting in quite some time.
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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Using BCC is pretty standard business practice. Not only does it protect HOA members' personal email addresses, which may be protected info as it is in my state. It also helps avoid the dreaded Reply All Apocalypse (email servers have crashed under the weight of large numbers of employees using Reply All to respond to a contentious topic).
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By MarkS44 on 07/09/2024 2:29 PM
I have asked the HOA to take this hostile member off the mass email list. They won’t. They feel it would not be, “fair”, to the hostile member.
Another thread of the OP's spoke of the BCC option. For some reason the HOA will not use BCC.

The OP and everyone here knows what the HOA should do. The HOA will not do it.

I wish people would direct the OP on how to respond to this refusal, rather than continually advise him what the HOA should do.
KerryL1 (California)
Posts: 14,550
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I will be happy to reply to the OP once he replies to my simple questions: Are you or have you been on your Board, MarkS? Thank you.
SheliaH (Indiana)
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Posted By ElleN on 07/10/2024 1:33 PM
Posted By MarkS44 on 07/09/2024 2:29 PM
I have asked the HOA to take this hostile member off the mass email list. They won’t. They feel it would not be, “fair”, to the hostile member.
Another thread of the OP's spoke of the BCC option. For some reason the HOA will not use BCC.

The OP and everyone here knows what the HOA should do. The HOA will not do it.

I wish people would direct the OP on how to respond to this refusal, rather than continually advise him what the HOA should do.

He knows, but for some reason won't pull the trigger. We can't help that. That's why I suggested he send a letter to whoever insulted him. The thing about the web is that people can say anything and think it won't come back to bite them, but it can, so you may have to take the fight to them. Some folks here also suggested ignoring him, which can also work

(Dear haters - I have SO MUCH MORE for you to be mad at. Just be patient!)

If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius
CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299
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When a homeowner is dealing with a board that refuses to do something that they should do, it's going to boil down to live with it, fix it, or move.

In other words, how big is this problem and what are you willing *and able* to do to about it? Assuming the homeowner doesn't want to move, then living with it or changing it are the only options.

Assuming the homeowner isn't willing to live with it, then what has to happen to change it? Either the board has to see reason, or the board has to be forced to change course, or the board needs to be replaced. If personal persuasion doesn't do the trick, then the homeowner is left with going the legal route or partnering with other homeowners to replace the board with savvier people.

In both of these cases, the homeowner needs help: either a lawyer who will handle the legal paperwork or an external mechanism for dispute resolution provided by the state or fellow homeowners who agree that the status quo is a problem and needs to be changed. In evaluating these options, the homeowner needs to consider the cost of each (in time, money, effort, and impact on community relationships) and decide whether the potential benefits of the options justify the costs. Along with this, the homeowner should consider the potential costs - personal and to the community - of doing nothing.

All of these costs and benefits need to be weighed against the likelihood of success.

Aside from ignoring the whole issue, none of the options is fast or easy, monetary costs vary widely, and some are more doable than others.

Whatever a homeowner chooses to do, it can be easier to live with the decision if they treat this as a business problem and do the cost-benefit analysis.
TerriS6 (California)
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Mark, it could be that this situation would fall under the prohibition on nuisances in your CC&Rs, a nuisance created by the board. If so, you could enforce the CC&Rs to stop it. You are entitled to quiet enjoyment of your peoperty.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By SheliaH on 07/10/2024 7:31 PM

He knows
I disagree.

You have been reading here for years. You say you served on a board for years, including significant time as treasurer. You "know," but does MarkS44? MarkS44 sits there presumably reading this "salad" of responses, a number of which wander off into the weeds and ignore the OP's facts and question.

I do not understand how MarkS44 could "know" at all which responses would actually help.

I know I would be disgusted as all get-out with this board. Harassment is common at HOAs. Some of it does have to be tolerated, in my experience. But sometimes, a line is crossed. It sure sounds like the line is either close to being crossed here, or it has been crossed.

The advantage of MarkS44 not just taking this is he could help the association in general be a better institution.

If MarkS44 wants a draft of a demand letter lite, I hope he will post back and say so.
KerryL1 (California)
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Unlike elle, who seems suspicious,* I believe Shelia completely when she's written that she served on her Board for years (10,I think?). Her advice here always is thoughtful, shows humor and has dashes of creativity.

I like Shelia's advice the best so far in this case. "Perhaps a strongly worded letter of your own telling him to rethink letting his mouth (or fingers in this case) write a check his ass can't pay (with a copy to your attorney) will cool his jets."

* elle also has claimed suspicion that I didn't serve on my Board long-term (14 years), but she KNOWS I did due to personal correspondence between us some years ago. elle, board unfinished -termer, seems to be uncomfortable in the company of experienced directors.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 07/11/2024 9:11 AM
Unlike elle, who seems suspicious,*
For the greater part, nothing posted here about people's backgrounds is verifiable.

More importantly, many allegedly long-serving directors get things wrong all the time.
SheliaH (Indiana)
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Posted By ElleN on 07/11/2024 8:33 AM
Posted By SheliaH on 07/10/2024 7:31 PM

He knows
I disagree.

You have been reading here for years. You say you served on a board for years, including significant time as treasurer. You "know," but does MarkS44? MarkS44 sits there presumably reading this "salad" of responses, a number of which wander off into the weeds and ignore the OP's facts and question.

I do not understand how MarkS44 could "know" at all which responses would actually help.

I know I would be disgusted as all get-out with this board. Harassment is common at HOAs. Some of it does have to be tolerated, in my experience. But sometimes, a line is crossed. It sure sounds like the line is either close to being crossed here, or it has been crossed.

The advantage of MarkS44 not just taking this is he could help the association in general be a better institution.

If MarkS44 wants a draft of a demand letter lite, I hope he will post back and say so.

Well, he hasn't replied back, so unless you're a mind reader, you don't know either. Perhaps he IS taking some of these suggestions and will post later to report what worked or didn't. He doesn't have to take your suggestion or mine - as long as the problem gets resolved, I'm happy for him. But if the line is crossed, as you said, you're correct that stronger action will be necessary and that can be scary. That's when you do the cost-benefit analysis, as Cathy noted, to determine if you want to start the fire and accept what may happen next. No one approach will resolve the problem - you may need more than one, but you have to start by doing something.

YOU even said "The OP and everyone here knows what the HOA should do. The HOA will not do it." When people cannot or refuse to do right, you have to prod, persuade and sometimes threaten to make the changes you want. Anyone reading this website for even a little while learns that in some cases you may need to consult a private attorney. If you're read any of my posts (and I know you have under your old ID) you recall that I've suggested plenty of times that posters discuss the issue with their neighbors and then all of them go to the next board meeting and demand answers. It's easy for a board to blow off one homeowner - these people may think Mark's being too sensitive and should get over it. However, there are ways people can express themselves without getting ugly, and this homeowner needs to be reminded of that. If the board won't do it for whatever reason, it's up to the homeowners to remind THEM there should be decency and order, even if you have a discussion about a controversial subject.

Mark said this guy has shot off his mouth at other people, so I suspect he's not the only one who's annoyed with this behavior. Even if he is, there's power in number, although sometimes it takes some work to get it organized and them execute it. How many times have you read about others on this website (like Kerry) who got up and worked with their neighbors to turn things around? Even Terri has been successful in the lawsuits she's filed against her board. I don't always agree with her on various issues, but at least she's not sitting there wringing her hands.

If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By SheliaH on 07/11/2024 1:55 PM
Posted By ElleN on 07/11/2024 8:33 AM
Posted By SheliaH on 07/10/2024 7:31 PM

He knows
I disagree.

You have been reading here for years. You say you served on a board for years, including significant time as treasurer. You "know," but does MarkS44? MarkS44 sits there presumably reading this "salad" of responses, a number of which wander off into the weeds and ignore the OP's facts and question.

I do not understand how MarkS44 could "know" at all which responses would actually help.

I know I would be disgusted as all get-out with this board. Harassment is common at HOAs. Some of it does have to be tolerated, in my experience. But sometimes, a line is crossed. It sure sounds like the line is either close to being crossed here, or it has been crossed.

The advantage of MarkS44 not just taking this is he could help the association in general be a better institution.

If MarkS44 wants a draft of a demand letter lite, I hope he will post back and say so.


Well, he hasn't replied back, so unless you're a mind reader, you don't know either.
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You said he knows what to do. I said he does not. If he knew what to do, he would not have asked for advice on what to do.
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Posted By SheliaH on 07/11/2024 1:55 PM
I have no idea what your point is.

I am not into the long digressions of "what ifs" and other judgments (guesses) you make.

For all we know, the OP is the provocateur here.
ElleN (Idaho)
Posts: 4,420
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Posted By SheliaH on 07/11/2024 1:55 PM

YOU even said "The OP and everyone here knows what the HOA should do. The HOA will not do it."
I have no idea what your point is.

I am not into the long digressions of "what ifs" and other judgments (guesses) you make.

For all we know, the OP is the provocateur here.
MarkS44 (Washington)
Posts: 16
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ElleN,

Yes. I would like the demand letter. (Sorry, I just retired so life was busy for a few weeks). Will follow daily.

Thank you!

Mark

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