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MarkS44 (Washington)
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Our HOA has a hostile community member. Online, through an email chain, she disparages board members by name and others in the community. She makes up lies about the board, others and situations. Has anyone here experienced this? Do or can Washington state laws against cyber bullying apply? If she begins to disparage board members or others at a community meeting can I ask her to leave? Looking for general advise and experiences dealing with someone like this? Oh, she is also a stock broker so can this affect her license?
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM
Our HOA has a hostile community member. Online, through an email chain, she disparages board members by name and others in the community. She makes up lies about the board, others and situations. Has anyone here experienced this? Do or can Washington state laws against cyber bullying apply?
From experience --

-- The board members are quasi public figures. This means the bar for defamation is somewhat high.

-- The HOA attorney could write a C&D letter to stop any lies and defamation of the corporation. Whether I would advise this or not just depends.

-- There is a lot to be said for ignoring the person but addressing any glaring falsehood very briefly in the Minutes.

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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM
If she begins to disparage board members or others at a community meeting can I ask her to leave?
Short answer: As President, yes. You even have a duty to ask (order) someone to leave who is disrupting the business of the HOA. Long answer: Best practices is for the board to set reasonable rules for civility at board meetings; "notice" the rules to all owners consistent with statutes; enforce these rules; include as a penalty that anyone instructed to leave must leave; as needed hire a security guard to be a presence and walk the offender out of the meeting.

This question comes up here often.
KerryL1 (California)
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By "community meeting', do you mean board meeting? Or is a meeting of the association (membership)? And are you on the Board and/or perhaps Board president?

Well, this is so hard, imo, for board leaders and there are some postings here that you might research. Most recently is "Harassing Emails" on 4/16 by WilliamW15.

You & the board need to craft Rules about behavior at these meetings. In them, owners may only speak during a specified period, called, in some states, Open Forum. And then their remarks must not attack staff, board members or others owners. Such attacks will result in the violator being asked to leave the meeting.

If she doesn't comply, the Board may adjourn the meeting to reconvene in 10 minutes, say, a director's home with all invited (if there's room) except Ms. Nasty.

Another tactic is to call her on her rudeness in front of everyone AT the meeting. Reading the room, you and other board members should be able to see if her mouth is received well. If not, try this: "Due to Ms. Nasty's negativity and rudeness, your Board is unable to conduct the business of our community. Shall we direct Ms. Nasty to leave the meeting?" Get the owners to buy in.

So far as I know, you and you Board colleagues and fellow owners must handle this. No entity is going to ride in and save you.

Ah, I see Elle just posted, too.

TerriS6 (California)
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What kind of things is she complaining about?
TimB4 (Tennessee)
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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM

She makes up lies about the board, others and situations. Has anyone here experienced this?

It could be her perspective of things.
Consider what is being said and reply to specifics.

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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM

Do or can Washington state laws against cyber bullying apply?

Great question for an attorney.

Have you read the statute?
What is the statute number?

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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM

If she begins to disparage board members or others at a community meeting can I ask her to leave?

If someone is not being civil, they can - and should - be called out on it.
We would give one warning.
If it happens again, we would ask them to leave.
If they refuse, we recess the meeting and contact the police.

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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM
Looking for general advise and experiences dealing with someone like this?

Don't respond to social media - it simply fans the flames.

In a meeting, call them out - politely - as mentioned above.

Listen to what is being said. Perhaps invite the individual to a special meeting with the board to try and address her concerns - Record that meeting (making an announcement of recording the meeting at the beginning of the meeting). You and the other board members must remain calm, collective and civil.

There is a lot on the internet about conflict resolution.

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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM

Oh, she is also a stock broker so can this affect her license?

Are you looking at being a bully?
CathyA3 (Ohio)
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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM
Our HOA has a hostile community member. Online, through an email chain, she disparages board members by name and others in the community. She makes up lies about the board, others and situations. Has anyone here experienced this? Do or can Washington state laws against cyber bullying apply? If she begins to disparage board members or others at a community meeting can I ask her to leave? Looking for general advise and experiences dealing with someone like this? Oh, she is also a stock broker so can this affect her license?

Every community has a few of these. What you have to understand is that they're looking for confrontation and drama. The board's job is not to provide these things.

What you can do is set rules of conduct for board meetings along with time limits for speaking. These are business meetings, everyone should behave professionally - and yes, there can be consequences for misbehavior such as being asked to leave. (Online meetings can be a godsend since the moderator can mute whoever is not speaking at the moment.) If she's spreading misinformation, the best way to counter that is to be transparent and communicate accurate information to the membership. Ignore her nonsense, don't respond to her attempts to start fights.

(And no, this won't affect her stock broker's license unless she's trying to sell you shady investments during one of her rants. There are strict rules for licensing in the financial services industry, but they apply to the person's conduct as a professional. The individual can be a total jerk otherwise, although they may lose clients over it.)
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/20/2024 6:42 PM
Another tactic is to call her on her rudeness in front of everyone AT the meeting. Reading the room, you and other board members should be able to see if her mouth is received well. If not, try this: "Due to Ms. Nasty's negativity and rudeness, your Board is unable to conduct the business of our community. Shall we direct Ms. Nasty to leave the meeting?" Get the owners to buy in.
And the next time, when the owners present at the meeting are encouraging the person disrupting, and the owners insist the President only take action based on the owners' input?

The board and president have a fiduciary duty to ensure the business of the association can be conducted at board meetings. The president has this duty for association meetings. AFAIC it is cowardly and unprofessional for either the board or the president to consult the owners. It would be like a teacher of a fifth grade class consulting the students every time a student disrupts the class.
TerriS6 (California)
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In California, it is illegal for an association to have a policy that inhibits member criticism of the board.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By TerriS6 on 04/21/2024 9:51 AM
In California, it is illegal for an association to have a policy that inhibits member criticism of the board.
Nope. This is grossly inaccurate.
TerriS6 (California)
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We are discussing online comments. $500. fine and injunctive relief.

CIVIL CODE SECTION 4515. RIGHTS OF ASSEMBLY AND NON-COMMERCIAL SPEECH.
(a) It is the intent of the Legislature to ensure that members and residents of common interest developments have the ability to exercise their rights under law to peacefully assemble and freely communicate with one another and with others with respect to common interest development living or for social, political, or educational purposes.

(b) The governing documents, including bylaws and operating rules, shall not prohibit a member or resident of a common interest development from doing any of the following:

(1) Peacefully assembling or meeting with members, residents, and their invitees or guests during reasonable hours and in a reasonable manner for purposes relating to common interest development living, association elections, legislation, election to public office, or the initiative, referendum, or recall processes.

(2) Inviting public officials, candidates for public office, or representatives of homeowner organizations to meet with members, residents, and their invitees or guests and speak on matters of public interest.

(3) Using the common area, including the community or recreation hall or clubhouse, or, with the consent of the member, the area of a separate interest, for an assembly or meeting described in paragraph (1) or (2) when that facility or separate interest is not otherwise in use.

(4) Canvassing and petitioning the members, the association board, and residents for the activities described in paragraphs (1) and (2) at reasonable hours and in a reasonable manner.

(5) Distributing or circulating, without prior permission, information about common interest development living, association elections, legislation, election to public office, or the initiative, referendum, or recall processes, or other issues of concern to members and residents at reasonable hours and in a reasonable manner.

(6)

(A) Using social media or other online resources to discuss any of the following, even if the content is critical of the association or its governance:

(i) Development living.

(ii) Association elections.

(iii) Legislation.

(iv) Election to public office.

(v) The initiative, referendum, or recall processes.

(vi) Any other issues of concern to members and residents.

(B) This paragraph does not require an association to provide social media or other online resources to members.

(C) This paragraph does not require an association to allow members to post content on the association’s internet website.

(c) A member or resident of a common interest development shall not be required to pay a fee, make a deposit, obtain liability insurance, or pay the premium or deductible on the association’s insurance policy, in order to use a common area for the activities described in paragraphs (1), (2), and (3) of subdivision (b).

(d) A member or resident of a common interest development who is prevented by the association or its agents from engaging in any of the activities described in this section may bring a civil or small claims court action to enjoin the enforcement of a governing document, including a bylaw and operating rule, that violates this section. The court may assess a civil penalty of not more than five hundred dollars ($500) for each violation.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By TerriS6 on 04/21/2024 10:45 AM
[I meant to say I was referring to] online comments.
Yup, you did mean to say this.
TerriS6 (California)
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Posted By ElleN on 04/21/2024 10:47 AM
Posted By TerriS6 on 04/21/2024 10:45 AM
[I meant to say I was referring to] online comments.
Yup, you did mean to say this.

You are a liar and a fraud, making it look like I revised my comment. I meant what I said and I don't revise it.
TerriS6 (California)
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How do I report someone on this forum for revising my comment as if I revised it?
ElleN (Idaho)
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TerriS6, I believe there is some disconnect in your brain, based in a learning disability. This is not the first time you have posted a flat-out lie and then ended up saying, in so many words, that you meant something else.

My main interest is getting the facts to readers. Your original, ridiculous statement has been corrected. End of discussion.

TerriS6 (California)
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So funny. I know you must wear the largest hat size but even someone with the smallest hat size knew that the poster was referring to comments that had been made online. There was no need to repeat it.
TerriS6 (California)
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Posted By ElleN on 04/21/2024 11:15 AM
TerriS6, I believe there is some disconnect in my understanding of forum etiquette. I sincerely apologize, TerriS6, for altering your comment without permission and I promise not to do that again.


Thank you.
TerriS6 (California)
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p.s. the California Constitution protects the offline criticism.
KerryL1 (California)
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Board meetings are required to be open in CA, expect for a very few matters. Our HOA Board voted on and wrote this policy about 9 years ago. It's distributed to attendees on the back of the open meeting agenda at every monthly open board mtg. and is posted online for Zoom attendees. Our HOA has a F-T mgr. & mgr.asst who are at the directors table.

I seem to post this once or twice a year and hope it's helpful. To avoid back & forth arguments with Owners. All owners present their remarks, questions, concerns. The mtg. chair closes open forum and THEN directors and/or the PM address each question, remark, criticism. There is no further participation from Owners. Rarely, an owner will approach the table after the meeting is adjourned for more info or clarification.

BOARD MEETING CONDUCT

We welcome homeowners as observers of the Board of Directors meetings. During the discussion and votes about agenda items, only those at the conference table may speak. Please remain silent so that we are able to hear one another and conduct our community’s business. Our HOA has a F-T mgr. & mgr.asst who are at the directors table.

We invite your comments about the Board’s agenda items or other related topics at the beginning of every board meeting during our Open Forum. We hold a second Open Forum at the end of the board meetings for your additional info or clarification. Rarely, an owners will approach the table after the mtg. is adjourned for additional info. Usually the mgr. or president is able to clear things up on the spot. If not, the owner is invited to set up an appt. or is promised to have the relevant policy to whatever sent to them

During Open Forum:

Raise your hand to be recognized.

State your name, unit # and tower.

Express your topic in concise, clear terms.

Convey only one topic each time you’re recognized to speak.

Limit your remarks to two minutes.

Never interrupt others while they speak.

As a Reminder:

Ideas for improving [our HOA] or concerns about Board policy are acceptable.

Berating any individual director, homeowner, or manager will not be tolerated.

We ask that maintenance items be reported to management outside of meetings.

Please realize that the Board or Management may not be able to respond to your Open Forum remarks without research. Board deliberation or votes on non-agenda items, per Calif. Civil Code 4920, cannot occur on the spot. The Board will consider these for a future agenda.

Thank you for your interest in our shared community!
RileyS (California)
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"Convey only one topic each time you’re recognized to speak".

"Limit your remarks to two minutes".

Kerry, thanks for posting that

So does your board recognize that a homeowner can speak more than once for 2 minutes, if it is a different topic?

ElleN - why does it seem that you're always 'looking to pick a fight' with someone? I thought we were talking about 'online' comments also, is it not possible for you to 'stay on topic'.

Do you always have to be right?

From what I understand, you used to post on this forum under another name. Why did you change?
JohnC46 (South Carolina)
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Mark

Some good advice here but be thankful you only have one hostile member. Other members will recognize this and, as you should, ignore him.
KerryL1 (California)
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Terri wrote: the California Constitution "protects the offline criticism." What is "offline criticism" in the context of CA HOAs, Terri?
KerryL1 (California)
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Terri wrote: the California Constitution "protects the offline criticism." What is "offline criticism" in the context of CA HOAs, Terri?
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By TerriS6 on 04/21/2024 11:51 AM
p.s. the California Constitution protects the offline criticism.
Whether the California Constitution protects offline criticism depends on what was said; where it was said; and more.
TerriS6 (California)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/21/2024 3:58 PM
Terri wrote: the California Constitution "protects the offline criticism." What is "offline criticism" in the context of CA HOAs, Terri?

That would be any other speech or writing. For example, at open forum, in a letter, speaking to neighbors, etc.
KerryL1 (California)
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Yes, Riley, the meeting chair makes sure we owners take turns at each open forum. And for someone's next turn it must be a different topic.

Until a few months ago, about 30 owners attended about 1/2 each via Zoom in-person. Perhaps 4 owners would say something in the 1st Open Forum. Maybe 2 in the 2nd open forum. Typically, comments/remarks/concerns are quite short. Attendance has dropped basically this year. I think one reason is that the agendas' items of business have been very boring and noncontroversial.

I was having a lot of trouble formatting my "paste "and inadvertently Included passages in my previous post that are NOT in our Board's Handout: "Our HOA has a F-T mgr. & mgr.asst who are at the directors table," and "Rarely, an owners will approach the table after the mtg. is adjourned for additional info. Usually the mgr. or president is able to clear things up on the spot. If not, the owner is invited to set up an appt. or is promised to have the relevant policy to whatever sent to them."

So my previous SHOULD say: "We welcome homeowners as observers of the Board of Directors meetings. During the discussion and votes about agenda items, only those at the conference table may speak. Please remain silent so that we are able to hear one another and conduct our community’s business.

We invite your comments about the Board’s agenda items or other related topics at the beginning of every board meeting during our Open Forum. We hold a second Open Forum at the end of the board meetings for your additional info or clarification."

I was on the Board when it was originally authored. We did Not have actual hostile owners as does MarkS.. BUT a woman, a previous director & board prez who'd been defeated for reelection, still attended all board meeting with her two little friends. They need ed to whisper among themselves about various agenda items and Board discussions & votes.They made frowny faces. We at the directors table, not to mention those sitting near them were constantly distracted by the buzz, buzz sound.

"Reading the room," we directors saw that owners--all adult who qualify to serve on the Board (unlike 5th graders) -- were just as annoyed as we were.

This particular president had been a career US Army sergeant, and then a 20-year sergeant on the police force of a sizable town in our county. More than once, he demanded that the 3 stop whispering. They'd sto, but start up again. One time, he did order them to stop or leave the meeting. They stopped. Still we directors did consider getting a gavel for the meeting chair. And he wasn't opposed.

We decided to try the handout first with no threats on it. If needed, there certainly could be! I do think that on some boards--depending on other factors--a gavel for the meeting chair could be effective. The chair could literally stand and gavel and loudly say "order," order!" when a Ms. Nasty, keeps insulting others.

Both elle and Tim often have written that the police can be called or a guard hired, or some such. I don't think we've ever seen on this forum that such an approach was actually ever used. If so, I'd like to see how it played out. IMO, this would be a very last resort for many reasons.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/21/2024 4:48 PM
Both elle and Tim often have written that the police can be called or a guard hired, or some such. I don't think we've ever seen on this forum that such an approach was actually ever used. If so, I'd like to see how it played out.
I have seen it used at two different HOAs/COAs. It works perfectly. The police/security guard knows what they are doing and keeps it low key.

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Posted By TerriS6 on 04/21/2024 4:39 PM
Posted By KerryL1 on 04/21/2024 3:58 PM
Terri wrote: the California Constitution "protects the offline criticism." What is "offline criticism" in the context of CA HOAs, Terri?


That would be any other speech or writing. For example, at open forum, in a letter, speaking to neighbors, etc.
Nope. Certain speech is not protected by the California Constitution, regardless of how it is delivered. For example: Defame the HOA/COA, and the speaker or writer of the speech may be held liable, as the Calif constitution does not protect speakers/writers from liability for defamation.
TerriS6 (California)
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Civ code 4925 only allows the board to limit the TIME members can speak. The law does not allow the board to restrict the topics that members want to talk about.
TerriS6 (California)
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Since the board can't discuss what members bring up at open forum, it shouldn't matter to the board how many topics are brought up.
KerryL1 (California)
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Perhaps you'd share what it's like in real life to have such person at board meetings? What were the circumstance that seemed to require them??? How much did they cost? Were they police officers? Or employees of security firms? Who approved hiring them? Did the board introduce them to meeting attendees? Do they stand outside the meeting room? In uniform? Or sit in a car? Did they act in any kind of way with owners ? Or?

Just sayin' you've seen them, Elle, and "IT [KL's emph.]works perfectly," doesn't educate readers or the OP, who might be considering such. imo, a huge step. What is the "it? "Their presence? Their behavior?

Why are you replying, Elle, to my question to Terri? Yet, not replying to Riley's questions to you? Perhaps you're the one with a "learning disability?"
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By TerriS6 on 04/21/2024 5:52 PM
Civ code 4925 only allows the board to limit the TIME members can speak. The law does not allow the board to restrict the topics that members want to talk about.
Wrong. For example, the board not only can stop an owner defaming another owner, or creating a hostile environment based on membership in an FHA protected class; the board has a legal duty to do so.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/21/2024 6:02 PM
Perhaps you'd share what it's like in real life to have such person at board meetings? What were the circumstance that seemed to require them???
If I felt the answers to these questions were not obvious, then I might respond.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By TerriS6 on 04/21/2024 5:52 PM
Civ code 4925 only allows the board to limit the TIME members can speak. The law does not allow the board to restrict the topics that members want to talk about.
You are repeating this falsehood an awful lot here.

Serious California-based HOA/COA members and board directors will review this:

https://www.davis-stirling.com/HOME/O/Open-Forums

As much as TerriS6 wishes owners could say whatever they want and not be lawfully ejected from a meeting, she is sorely mistaken.
KerryL1 (California)
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Since elle refuses to provide a step-by-step account of HOW a board might make the decision, then hire a police office/security person, and then what happens next? I can only assume that she never actually has "seen it" done in 2 Associations. She has never mentioned this 2X time activity previously that I've seen. If she has already educated us about how this works in real life, how about reprinting it here?

The steps and real process might be of great help to the OP and to others reading this thread.
TerriS6 (California)
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And she attributes inflammatory remarks that others never posted simply to annoy others and try to start fights.
It’s probably rare that a member is so out of line they would be asked to leave.
BillD16 (Texas)
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Posted By MarkS44 on 04/20/2024 6:02 PM
Our HOA has a hostile community member. Online, through an email chain, she disparages board members by name and others in the community. She makes up lies about the board, others and situations. Has anyone here experienced this? Do or can Washington state laws against cyber bullying apply? If she begins to disparage board members or others at a community meeting can I ask her to leave? Looking for general advise and experiences dealing with someone like this? Oh, she is also a stock broker so can this affect her license?

If you've got just one person talking shit about you, you might try looking at the Bright Side: you don't have a group of people all devoted to smearing your name. I don't claim to be an authority, but as long as it's one person and everyone thinks she has mental health problems, I'd try to be sympathetic to her issues.

But also I'd watch her and, if you see people beginning to agree with her - that's the time to take some kind of action. I don't mean anything illegal or immoral. But on some level you might want to begin to defend yourself.

Bill

HOA Board ex-President
Austin, Texas USA

“You can’t put too much water in a nuclear reactor”
TerriS6 (California)
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Open forum, for example, if a member wanted to take their two minutes or whatever it is to comment on the annual meeting date, the new mailboxes, and a couple of potholes they noticed, I don’t see any statute that limits the topics discussed, only the time. D/S open meeting act is patterned after the Brown Act which allows open time discussion of any items not on the agenda.
BillD16 (Texas)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/21/2024 4:48 PM

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Both elle and Tim often have written that the police can be called or a guard hired, or some such. I don't think we've ever seen on this forum that such an approach was actually ever used. If so, I'd like to see how it played out. IMO, this would be a very last resort for many reasons.

Years ago I saw a member of a Board - probably not an HOA Board, maybe some kind of City Council - who was asked to leave and refused, and there was a police officer there who tried to make him stand up, he wouldn't, and the cop pulled out the pepper spray and nailed the refusenik right in the face. It was successful but quite shocking to watch.

But what can you do? Every so often we all encounter some person who has decided they're not going to back down: a resident at the pool won't leave, even though the LG says he must. The LG is not a bouncer. When Ofc Payne shows up, well, there's going to be some payne.

Bill

HOA Board ex-President
Austin, Texas USA

“You can’t put too much water in a nuclear reactor”
MichaelS56 (Minnesota)
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Take a look at the Washington State law, Chapter 9a.46 RCW. This pertains to harassment and see if any of this would help.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/21/2024 7:10 PM
Since elle refuses to provide a step-by-step account of HOW a board might make the decision, then hire a police office/security person, and then what happens next?

I can only assume that she never actually has "seen it" done in 2 Associations. She has never mentioned this 2X time activity previously that I've seen. If she has already educated us about how this works in real life, how about reprinting it here?

The steps and real process might be of great help to the OP and to others reading this thread.


I disagree.
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Posted By ElleN on 04/09/2024 9:05 AM
One of my biggest reasons for declining to respond to certain (not all) people's questions is my concern about derailment of a thread. Another reason is I simply cannot parse what some posters here are saying. I do not have a magic wand to make someone's posts more readable. Call it my fault if you want.

I understand if you think every poster here makes sense all the time. But this is not my experience.

If your and K's position is the very act of declining to respond to a question is insulting, then I think this is the problem. I do not assert this as fact. I am saying this is how I see it.


If the OP asks for elaboration, then I would be happy to do so. Of course, calling a company that provides security guards or the local police department would probably get him the info he needs quicker.

KerryL1 (California)
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Terri wrote: “Open forum, for example, if a member wanted to take their two minutes…to comment on the annual meeting date, the new mailboxes, and a couple of potholes they noticed….” Reread the above handout about meeting conduct, Terri. It complies completely with what Boards in CA may require during Open Forum. Review again, Terri. www.davis-stirling.com/HOME/O/Open-Forums.

In your HOA, Terri, I believe there are only two improved common areas, roads & mailboxes. So if you think your HOA needs new cluster mailboxes, you sure can ask the Board at a meeting, what if any plans there are for them. You could add that “I see in the Reserve Study that they’re due to be replaced.” You might add, “if there are no plans, will you place this on the next open meeting agenda for possible Board action?” It’s legal for them to reply.

This fits into my HOA’s “ Ideas for improving [our HOA] or concerns about Board policy are acceptable.”

Now if no other owner is waiting to speak, the chair, at least in my HOA, would say, go ahead if you have any further comments. Terri: “The potholes in front of xx address & in front of xxx address are getting worse. Are they scheduled for repair? If not, will you place them on the next Board meeting agenda to vote to seek bids?” It’s legal for them to reply.

What our Board would not tolerate is if the questions were asked in an insulting, trash-talk way that attacks the Board members, for, say, the date, of the annual meeting. Our guide: “Berating any individual director, homeowner, or manager will not be tolerated.”

I’ve noticed lately that Elle makes assertions that MIGHT be helpful to readers here, but doesn’t provide details. If she and Tim have brought up more than twice that “guards” or cops would be good to hire*, why not show readers how it’s done—the process.

Many years ago during my long years of service I was forced to be Board president b/c no other director would do it. At one meeting, an owner would not stop talking during his time to speak. I “thanked” him a couple of times and asked him to sum up. He refused. He just kept yakking and repeating his complaint. I finally stood up and directed him to "Stop, right now Mr. X!" I then took a few steps toward the audience section and repeated my demand. He left the room. My 5 Board colleagues all had glared at him once I first asked him to stop. They had my back.

* With respect to BillD, city councils, or similar, have cops nearby. I also can see calling the police if some wouldn't stop misbehaving at the pool. Inside a meeting room is entirely different and would require prior arrangements: board approval of an agreement to pay, hours, where stationed, attire, etc., for a scheduled board meeting where "trouble" might occur possibly from a pissed off owner.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/23/2024 7:34 PM
I’ve noticed lately that Elle makes assertions that MIGHT be helpful to readers here, but doesn’t provide details.
This is further proof that you will badger and deride, all in an effort to get someone else to join you in derailing a thread.

As I have explained: I do not want to try to have a rational discussion with you. I do not understand what you are saying in many of your posts. You frequently mis-understand what I am saying. I have no magic wand to make your posts more readable. Round and round you and I go. A thread was deleted recently. Do you want this thread deleted?

No means no.
ElleN (Idaho)
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Posted By BillD16 on 04/21/2024 7:39 PM
Years ago I saw a member of a Board - probably not an HOA Board, maybe some kind of City Council - who was asked to leave and refused, and there was a police officer there who tried to make him stand up, he wouldn't, and the cop pulled out the pepper spray and nailed the refusenik right in the face. It was successful but quite shocking to watch.
I have doubts this approach would ever be used today.
DeanJ
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Are you some way damaged or just tired of it? An attorney can help with the first, but not the later.
TerriS6 (California)
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Kerry, I was just referring to the number of subjects. Unfortunately, our chairman does nit know how to run a meeting. It's a free for all. I had to call the sheriff once because a member threatened to shoot my husband.
KerryL1 (California)
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Ah, I see Terri. Well, I can see the police being called in your case! Was it a Board members or an HOA member who threatened your husband? Did the person actually brandish a weapon?
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Posted By KerryL1 on 04/24/2024 10:58 AM
Ah, I see Terri. Well, I can see the police being called in your case! Was it a Board members or an HOA member who threatened your husband? Did the person actually brandish a weapon?

Was a member who always speaks out of turn but the chairman does nothing. He did not brandish; he got up and said he was going to get his gun. We left right away. Chairman did nothing. Sheriff went to the meeting and talked to the member. Nothing since.
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Posted By ElleN on 04/23/2024 8:28 PM
Posted By BillD16 on 04/21/2024 7:39 PM
Years ago I saw a member of a Board - probably not an HOA Board, maybe some kind of City Council - who was asked to leave and refused, and there was a police officer there who tried to make him stand up, he wouldn't, and the cop pulled out the pepper spray and nailed the refusenik right in the face. It was successful but quite shocking to watch.
I have doubts this approach would ever be used today.

Oh, yeah. Nowadays they'd probably just shoot him.

Bill

HOA Board ex-President
Austin, Texas USA

“You can’t put too much water in a nuclear reactor”
MarkS44 (Washington)
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The real problem was bullying via email.

I established a mass email list to help promote communication as the HOA President. One woman on it used the mass email audience to disparage various members of the community. Focusing mostly on me. I took her off the mass email list and postal mailed her all relevant information. I have been off the board since March. The new board placed this woman back on the list. She now disparages me every time a new notice comes out. I asked the board to take her off the email list, as I did. It is like she is obsessed with me on some level.

Opinions? Can I take, ultimately, legal action against the board to exclude this harassing woman off the email list? How far can she go, threaten me with violence?

Our Articles and Bylaws stipulate communication via postal mail.

I really regret ever devising the mass email for community communication purposes.
TerriS6 (California)
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Civil harassment restraining order?
Have your lawyer write her a cease and desist letter?
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Posted By MarkS44 on 06/28/2024 12:23 PM

I established a mass email list to help promote communication as the HOA President. One woman on it used the mass email audience to disparage various members of the community. Focusing mostly on me. I took her off the mass email list and postal mailed her all relevant information. I have been off the board since March. The new board placed this woman back on the list. She now disparages me every time a new notice comes out. I asked the board to take her off the email list, as I did. It is like she is obsessed with me on some level.
Do I understand correctly that you had previously mass emailed owners such that all owners could see everyone else's email address and also, any owner who wanted to respond to all people in the email list only had to hit "Reply All," type away, and hit "Send"?

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