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Posted By LizD3 on 06/28/2023 8:32 AM
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Shelia: The issue is not transparency. The issue is violating the CC&Rs and statutes (and even Robert’s) which is done openly. I don’t need to agree with the board. But I do need them not to violate our governing documents.
As for end game – it is for me, as it is for everyone, to decide on a course of action and take it. Which means first, gathering my facts and understanding my options, which, again, is precisely why this site is here.
Still hoping they will listen to reason. Still hoping they will be swayed by facts. Because I am still hoping I can avoid taking anyone to court. So I am still asking and learning and exploring ways to try and do that.
Which is precisely what this site is for.
Of course, you want (and should expect) the documents to be followed, but after all these posts, it is clear your neighbors don’t want you at the meetings at all. It could be because they insist on doing things their way, documents be damned, or they ARE running the association according to the documents but don’t tell you because you’d point out X isn’t what the documents say. You aren’t there, so you don’t know what they’re doing.
There are only four of you, so three is a quorum, and if this meeting went down the way you described, we can assume they planned it that way. But once again, we have to return to Cathy’s comment – learn to live with this, move or fix it, and that would mean more lawsuits. I don’t know what you want us to suggest – if anyone could think of something else, it would have already been suggested. In fact, I think it would have come up in another conversation on this website years ago. But people are messy and some are just downright filthy.
I agree with ElleN this is grade school behavior (pre-school might be more accurate) but all of you are now at an impasse: “I want to attend the meeting – no, WE don’t want you there” and they’re winning. All of you are waiting for the other to blink, and meanwhile, this can’t be healthy for the overall health of the association.
In previous posts, you’ve also mentioned they’re using HOA funds improperly – if you can prove it, that’s what I think you should focus on. It’s bad enough that they don’t want you at meetings, but ¼ of that money comes from you and you have a right to know where it’s going and why. As you probably know from other conversations on this website, it’s never a good idea to try and withhold assessments because the board won’t do whatever – better to put those in escrow and then sue them. However, that would also mean the money you did pay would be used to defend the association board – the very people who continue to freeze you out.
(Why, or why do builders set up HOAs with fewer than 15 units? The tiny ones have more drama than the big ones – it would make more sense to just build four or five large apartments, collect rent, do repairs and boot people out if necessary for bad behavior. Then again, they’re long gone, so what do they care?)
What y’all need is an arbitrator. Both sides put up money to pay the fee and the winner (winners?) reimburses the loser and agrees in advance to comply with the arbitrator’s decision. I would hope a good one would take the time to dig deep and find out why the others keep freezing you out – and whether you’ve done something, intentionally or not, that’s worsening the situation. I don’t know what your household situation is, but perhaps someone else could attend the meetings for a while instead of you – dealing with him or her might work better.
So that and the lawsuit in my previous comment are my only suggestions – oh, wait, I have one more. I understand you don’t want to leave, but if the others dislike you so much, what if you suggested they buy you out? In addition to buying the unit and doing whatever they want with it, I’d also say the purchase price would have to include your moving expenses (all of them). You can haggle over the market value of the unit (or have the attorneys and a realtor figure that out), but that would be a choice – pay me lots of money to go away because I’m not going to stop, or we’ll keep going to court, I’ll keep winning, etc., etc.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius