For those following previous posts, the nightmare neighbor has moved.

After two years of complaints, officers/security visiting & getting the HOA committee involved, the crappy upstairs neighbor moved Friday. And it happened so quickly. Last week, I saw the landlord visit with a woman & her young daughter, they were upstairs looking around for about 15 min while the neighbor was on her “best” behavior. I saw the neighbor the week before go up there with moving boxes but didn’t think much of it until I saw the landlord visit with those two potential tenants, who are now in fact my new neighbors. The infamous neighbor clearly wasn’t evicted but people I talked to were under the impression that the landlord didn’t want to renew her lease bc of all the ruckus she’s caused. The HOA office confirmed with me her lease was scheduled to renew end of this month but didn’t know she was actually moving. When I checked my camera Friday morning while I wasn’t home, I saw a moving truck & she flipped my camera for the last time that morning. When I came back home that evening, she was getting rid of the last of her things & her last time over was yesterday morning when she dropped off her keys. The mother that now moved in has a young daughter around 8 maybe & yes I plan to move. My goal was to make sure the ghetto neighbor was gone & I was the last one standing. Lockbox is on my door as of this morning & listing goes live tomorrow. Lesson learnt, I will never live below someone again. Just a follow up after years of this, I just can’t wait to get a glimpse of the comments, especially those that hated on me all this time.

I'm happy for you, but personally, I don't think anyone hated on you (we don't know you). You asked for opinions and got them, along with suggestions, all of which you could choose to use, ignore or consider some and skip the others. Instead, you seemed to make it personal. This isn't an amen corner where people will automatically agree with you - after all, we don't live in your community and never heard the neighbor's side or the HOA's side, for that matter. Consider that the next time you ask for advice on anything.

Anyway, if you're moving, I also wish you the best of luck - but I still think you may be better off in a detached unit and not have to worry about upstairs, downstairs, or next door.

DanielleB4, thank you for the update. You have done a service on a few levels to others who might have this person as a neighbor. Shoot, you might have even done the former neighbor a service, if the former neighbor has learned the importance of quiet when folks have to live in close quarters.

I recall many comments attacking Danielle and in inappropriate ways. I am not saying Danielle has been perfect in all this. But I felt many posters here ignored the strong signs of Danielle's neighbor being the nuisance. Many simply joined a pile-on instead of being constructive.

AFAIC TimB4 has been a great anchor for keeping things civil and being constructive.

awesome! you were the last one standing. good luck in your new place. as for this forum, best thing to do is just log off, no ones gonna apologize IMHO. and yes i agree, never live below someone.

Oh sweetie, the stuff on here comes nowhere near "cyber-bullying" - too many regular posters would complain and the mods would yeet the offender(s).

Pointing out that someone is making a situation worse with their own (in)actions isn't "bullying". You can't solve a problem without understanding all the moving parts, including your own part in it. If this particular problem is "solved". it's because some of the moving parts outside of your control have changed. The wrong lesson has been learned, making it more likely that this situation will repeat itself in the future.

But... not my circus, not my monkeys.

You act like we are supposed to be living in your world. Are we supposed to react like you won and proud? No. We think you are in the wrong for being aggressive and possible racist against your neighbor.

I am happy for your neighbor finally deciding to move. That is the best decision for all involved. If anything your neighbor is now the winner here. No longer has to put up with the harassment.

I agree with everything you said. And I have been on the receiving end of abusive postings (not often) and have also been inappropriate myself at times. I formerly posted as BancsS and resigned from the forum due to one particular poster, in my opinion should have been kicked off the forum long ago.

In a forum like this, one takes the good with the bad. More often than not, posters try to be helpful but some step over the line. I truly believe there are times certain posts teeter on the edge of cyberbullying. It's not necessary to get one's point across.

I think Danielle took a bad situation and made it worse by her behavior and calling the tenant "ghetto" is very inappropriate among some of the other things she did. How one reacts to adverse situations is part of one's character. We can take those situations and examine them and ask ourselves some tough questions. Like what did I do to make it worse and how can I grow and handle things better in tough situations.

Condo living is probably not advisable as Augustin stated as did some others.

Thank you. And thanks for asking about our new house. We haven't moved yet. We were supposed to close last Friday, September 30, due to some unexpected paperwork issues. The lender is being super picky and making us take a home buyers education course. This is our 6th home purchase, we have impeccable credit, and a very large down payment. Sign of the times I guess. Home buying is so complex these days. It's a VA loan with some extra benefits for Nebraska veterans.