After ongoing/unresolved noise dispute, I’m considering selling my place. Does it come across as my neighbor won?

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DanielleG4 (Florida)
Posts: 131

Posted:

I own my downstairs condo and the upstairs neighbor rents. I bought my condo almost 3 years ago and it hasn’t been a good experience. I thought the first neighbor was an issue but with shit luck this one was ghetto and just dense. After three noise violations(one resulting in fine) and now she has this guy she’s seeing that got her an unauthorized occupant violation, the office is hopeless and I dislike her so there’s no resolution until she’s gone or I’m gone. I’ve been talking to a realtor that said the market has improved a bit, it’s no longer only in favor of sellers but buyers have some hope too. My place is worth a bit more now, if I sell at that rate & also have 2-3 months to find a place I’m looking for the realtor said I should be good (in search & pocketing some money too after buying). Selling shouldn’t be the issue it’s buying I’m worried about. But I could use the money and also sanity, I just hate to make it come across as the neighbor won. I was considering going to small claims court once I move to file, a legal expert told me a while back that showing I had to move bc of her could work in my favor in front of the court.

MelissaP1 (Alabama)
Posts: 13,836

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I call it a win in everyone's sanity...

Former HOA President

AugustinD
Posts: 1,027

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I think remaining at this condo for say, two more years, promises to be a great life lesson. I think going to court to roll the dice on winning damages and payment of your attorney fees, for allegedly "having to sell," would add to this life lesson.

To quote CathyA3 quoting Kenny Rogers: "You gotta know when to fold 'em."

SheliaH (Indiana)
Posts: 6,964

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Come across to who? Life's too short to twist yourself into knots trying to make people like you. They either do or don't, and sometimes it's not the fault of either side - it's just a matter of people being like oil and water..

Some of us said this may come down to what you're willing to live with. You said your first neighbor was a problem and now it seems to me you simply don't play well with others. Maybe what you need is a detached home, not an attached home of any kind. Even then, you may want to get some counseling so you can develop more coping mechanisms - in the end your complaints about this sounded more and more petty and you wanted to pound this neighbor in the dirt.

So do you - if you've decided to move, do it. If you'd like to try the soundproofing or noise reducing headphones or both, do that. Whatever you decide, make sure you can live with it. If this neighbor and the landlord are as crappy as you say, let karma deal with it. No, you may not be around to see it, but it evens out in the end.

By the way, this also applies to YOU. That line about people being ghetto is unnecessary and shows your bias (are you sure that hasn't been the problem all along?)

I bid you peace whatever you do.

If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius

JohnT38 (South Carolina)
Posts: 1,631

Posted:

You already lost. Your neighbor owns you.

CathyA3 (Ohio)
Posts: 6,299

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Posted By JohnT38 on 09/03/2022 8:49 AM
You already lost. Your neighbor owns you.

Yup. The tenant is living rent-free inside her head.

Here's something I've learned by living a long time: When you're in your 20s, you worry about what everyone is saying about you. When you're in your 40s, you don't care what everybody is saying about you. When you're in your 60s, you realize that nobody was even paying attention to you.

TimB4 (Tennessee)
Posts: 21,062

Posted:

Danielle,

Moving was an option.

You are right to be concerned on being able to purchase in this market.
I would suggest finding a place to live prior to selling yours. Otherwise, you could end up living out of your vehicle.
I would suggest a single family home vs. anything that is directly attached to another domicile.

Make an informed decision and move forward.

I wish you luck.

Tim

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