Leslie,
As an attorney, you should see that these are not really in conflict (at least that is my opinion).
The
Virginia Nonstock Corporation Act defers control (the document that must be followed) to the governing documents (specifically the Bylaws and Articles of Incorporation).
In every Virginia Bylaws and Articles of Incorporation I've seen, they defer conflicts to the Declaration of Covenants, Conditions and Restrictions (CC&Rs). I would expect that one of those documents defer control to the
Property Owners' Association Act.
Regardless, if none of these deferrals were happening, the key word (as you know) is "may". Hence the Board of Directors meeting
may be held without notice - an option. However, since the VPOAA uses the word "shall", the VPOAA requires that notice be sent.
Hence, the Corporations act is not decisive but the VPOAA is. Therefore, compliance with both acts (laws) is obtained.
One could certainly interpret the statutes the way you are. As you are aware, differing opinions (and technicalities) are why there are legal cases. Feel free to take action if you believe perceived conflict warrants it (I say perceived because until a court rules and all appeals are exhausted, each opinion would be based on perceptions).
Personally, I don't think a court would rule for you.