HOw to handle an aggressive homeowner?

I am on the BOD and have seen one neighbor verbally abuse, make
legal threats, etc to most of the elected BODs. He has run twice
for BOD and hasn't been elected (no surprise). Yesterday he approached me,
saying if I didn't personally go to another neighbor and "tell her" to move her boat(yes, she was in violation) he would personally sue me, the
Board, PM, and anyone else left breathing. He really scares me, and I
have blocked him from my emails. Any suggestions on how to minimize his
rage, maintain some type of control, and avoid his threats. He handed me
a scathing email he had just sent me and I said I would like to share it
with the boatowner....at which time he nearly orbited, so I suggested he
forward it to management (PM). "The BOD weren't elected to police 140 homes. We have a PM so send your email." He claimed he didn't know how,
although I know he is a frequent flyer when it comes to complaining to the
PM. He isn't going to give up his sadistic nature. Any advice?
Jackie

Mike.......your words are so true. I am not worried about
his threats for law suit. That has been his MO the entire
4 years I have lived here. As far as the "F" word goes, actually
I had to bite my tongue. I am glad my thoughts were silent. I know he will burn his own bridges, but I just wonder if there isn't a better way
to handle him....avoidance, but what else? I read someplace that Elenore
Roosevelt said when someone is verbally ripping you apart, just smile.
That is so against my Italian blood.

Amen - Karen!@

Let the PM take the heat. That's what they get paid for. If he shows up at the meetings and acts less than civil, ask him to leave or fold your and terminate the meeting.

JackieB - While you should not personally go to any owner and tell them they are in violation, you should excersise consistent enforcement to make sure that owners comply with the cc&r's and bylaws. Don't make the mistake of passing off the responsibility to a PM, the buck, no matter how you slice it stops with you. The PM is an agent of the BOD, that's all.

Jackie,

Your arrogant and abusive neighbors brother lives in my development, and he was once on the BOD. He was forced off by the other BOD members for abusive behavior towards the board members and office personnel. We instituted a Rules of a Meeting notice. It is placed at the entrance to the BOD meeting. It states all the common sense actions you would expect of any human being. The last item is (not quoted) if you act up you will either get evicted from the meeting or the meeting will be ended and the minutes will reflect that it was ended because of your outburst.

This did not control our friend. He continued to belittle and berate his neighbors and the BOD. After trying every which way to deal with him, we sent him a legal letter two weeks ago, informing him that if he continued his abuse of neighbors and the BOD we would file a police report. Where we used to have complaints about him at least 3-4 times a week, we have not heard from him or anyone else about him in two weeks.

I think the general consensus is correct - every neighborhood has one! We have one who constantly leaves messages on our phones telling us he is going to circulate a petition to have us all removed for silly things, like the lights at the entrance are not working. The best course of action for us has been to ignore him. Some people just like to hear themselves and are full of self-importance.

I agree with Robert. You know the BoD considers me to be a borderline problem child as I have been pretty relentless in my patio deal and wanting others to have the option to do the same thing, but I feel my criticisms are valid. It's taken time, but I've gotten support on it, and other homeowners have made observations as well about the BoD. I also think the board has done some good things for our community, but are these agressive hO really problem people or are their complaints valid? some of the people attacking our BoD just don't like their strategies. One members goes out and takes pictures of your place without asking or mentioning it to you, and then you get a letter from the PM. He feels people have been rude to him when they feel he could discuss with them what he's doing and why.

Let me assure you this HO is seriously mental. He seeks out a problem( his view) and takes it to the max. It becomes a quest for him rather than a problem that needs to be solved. It's his way and
NOW!!! But he won't send it to the proper sources. and he only does
this with women. Hmmmmm !!

Interesting - your initial post was requesting assistance about an agressive male homeowner, with a mention about - and "tell her" to move her boat(yes, she was in violation).

Then in a more recent post - Her boat, trailer and SUV are long and violate the CCR's. She is wealthy and couldn't care less about
the fines.

So is "wealthy her" also a problem, or does she pay the fines?

thank you.......I agree. Two wrongs don't make a right.

good idea.....thanks

Brad,
Every HOA association has "one" it seems. And your advice is well taken. He talks to "the women (only)" as if there still is slavery,
and women aren't allow to vote. I appreciate everyone's suggestions and sharing of war stories. I think the BOD and myself are well prepared to handle any future temper tantrums. Again, thanks to all.
Jackie

Donna - I'm not the original poster. I would refer this to Jackie..

Okay, so your HOA made 1800.00 for documents that the abuser can legally have. I'd lov to be able to pay for documents but our BoD won't give access.

I don't doubt that the guy is a problem, but why is paying 1800.00 to the HOA one of them? What is he looking for?

hello, all... what if your assoc doesn't have a PM? We're a small rural HOA with just a board & officers. I'm still questioning my judgement about becoming president because we have one of these adorable characters who is threatening to sue the association if we don't retract the results of an election and do it over (see my post today "Can a property owner sue his own assoc?" It's really nice to know I'm not alone!!! I feel for you JackieB, and any insight you can give me would be HUGELY appreciated.... thanks!
Melissa