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Posted By CatF on 01/18/2019 6:00 AM
OK, let's take out the antagonistic language here, huh? I came looking for some advice because I am frustrated.
There are seven people on the board. Another neighbor and I are new to the board and, backed up by about six others (spouses included), we are unhappy with how things have been run: very "loosey goosey", members worried about losing friendships, a disagreement over what the restrictions actually say, worried about keeping the local attorney over one who has more expertise who can actually help us.
This is a very small town, where the supervisor is a "good old boy". As an example, we had a meeting which involved the township and the gas company to which other HOAs were invited. The supervisor personally contacted one of the "GOBs" on our board to tell him about the meeting, and neither one told the rest of us who would've liked to attend.
She and I have talked and prodded and bitched and argued at these meetings and as I said, nothing really gets done. The AirBnb guy is still on the board, still allowed to participate in discussions, as well as vote, on this topic as well. The board president, as I said, doesn't live here year round and doesn't want the drama but won't give up his seat. As I said, the accountant is a bully. Nothing is ever voted on, minutes don't reflect the real conversation, it's all so much to try and tackle. And we only meet once every three months.
No, I don't want to sue the board with myself on it. I was given that advice before I got on the board. The board, without a vote, said they would pay us to consult with an outside attorney, which we did. Then they reneged and told us they wouldn't pay the bill because we had already consulted with him before they approved it.
Like I said, I am at an absolute loss and that's why I'm here. I need concrete steps to help us know where to go from here, not lectures. Thank you in advance for your patience and help.
I understand your frustrations. Part of it is the nature of HOAs and being on the board. Yes, it IS hard to do things properly because board members have to live in their communities, and contrary to what many homeowners think, they don't enjoy being the bad guys and making hard decisions. It's also frustrating to be the lone voice of reason on a board that's largely made up of folks who are uninformed or who are acting in their own self interest like Airbnb Guy.
As Kerry mentioned earlier, your HOA can be fixed, but you can't do it by yourself. You'll need enough like-minded people to get elected to the board so that you have a majority. THEN you can make things happen.
You know your community better than we do. Do you think you and your neighbors can form a majority on the board? Do you have the time, energy, and emotional stamina to correct things? ('Cause you will get push back from those who benefited from the loosey-goosey status quo.) How much do you love your home and the community itself? Are these things worth fighting for? Would you stop loving your home so much after several years of fighting to straighten out the HOA? (Burn out is a very real thing, and I think the best, hardest working board members burn out the fastest.) If nothing changes from the current status, could you be content to stay and just ignore the mess?
It's hard to untangle all of the conflicting thoughts and emotions surrounding this issue, but ultimately it boils down to a simple decision: would you be better served by staying in your HOA or by selling your home and moving?