New board prez spreading rumors and lies

I left a question a couple weeks ago about a “demand letter” the new board prez sent me, demanding “every” scrap of paper i’ve collected in the past 4 years of being on the board. She didn’t “demand” anyone else do this that served on the board with me. This was after I explained to her I had sent her everything. Long story, short, I replied to her demand letter saying I sent her everything and I even enclosed a thumb drive with all the documents on it I had. In addition, I told her to cease telling everyone that I,was still in contact with vendors and claiming to be on the board. That never happened. I never contacted anyone pretending to be a board member. In fact, I never contacted anyone, period.
I find out yesterday through another neighbor that now, this prez is spreading false rumors about me. Specifically, a large city project to,widen a road behind our complex. A road that my family home backs up to. The prez does not. My husband and I have been very active over the past 2 years with that project for obvious reasons. I have, In writing permission from the board prez from last year to work on this project and report back to the board. Which I did. I have in writing that the board, all members of the board voted on the best option the city offered. This new prez is telling neighbors that this project was all me and no one had a say and no else was allowed to get involved. The community caught the road contractor tearing up more,property than he was supposed to. My neighbor even called the mayor to complain only to find out, this contractor is screwing up in other neighbors areas too. But, somehow this is all my fault. I printed all the proof I had that this was a board decision and I had permission to talk to the city. She won’t pick up the phone when I call her. She won’t return my calls either. I’m about ready to go down to her place and bang on her door! Does anyone have any suggestions to get this woman off my a$$? She hates me and I don’t even know why. I was a very popular board prez and all I can think of, is maybe she’s jealous...

I agree with Kim.

You are going to have to let it go or it will consume you.

If you desire, have an attorney write a cease and desist letter on your behalf to the Board (copy to all of the Board - sent to each individual address pulse one to the registered agent of the Association).

Then move on and enjoy life. You can't control what others say and do.
You can control how you respond or how it affects you.

AmyS16, I am sorry you have to endure this. In the past, if subjected to ridicule, I have tried to respond in a manner that I think brings me the most peace. I would try to remember that the 'good people' who are observing this know the current Board president's remarks reflect only on her. The good guys and gals would not want me to engage beyond maybe a single line response now and then: A calm, I-am-above-all-this-grade-school-nonsense. "This is false."

In one town where I lived, population around 150,000, a certain mayor routinely would be attacked with lots of lies by a citizen at the start of every City Council meeting. It was part of the public comment section. The mayor never responded. I am certain the attacks brought the mayor's morale down, but not as far down as his morale might have been had he engaged. I admired this mayor for not engaging. I would try to put the thoughts of going to the HOA president's residence out of my mind. Same for yelling at her. If you stay calm in response to her, I think the chances of your actually being calm in the next several days are much higher. Perhaps above all, I try to remember that time heals wounds of the psyche (I grant maybe not perfectly). In six months, if you can ignore this idiot, you may feel a lot better.

Otherwise, I think you should reserve as an option hiring an attorney to write a cease-and-desist-from-the-harassment letter, cc'ing the HOA attorney.

Take care.