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Posted By PamM6 on 07/25/2015 6:34 PM
Tim. While you've stated that it's the HOs who choose to be submissive, I have my doubts. If you ban me, and you're likely to, then that's the strong arm telling me to submit to what you want, rather than allowing me to express myself. It's great when you always need agreement. All while you let the snide remarks of regular posters go on and on to intimidate and confuse a person who comes for help.
Expressing yourself and being ugly about it (as my wife would say) while expressing yourself are two different things.
Many of the regulars are guilty of snide remarks. However, they tend to do that in defense rather then launching the first salvo. Some, like Jon and JohnB (aka PitA), have a matter of fact way of expressing their perspective. Keep in mind that they don't always do that. However, when it's done, if individuals can get past the defensiveness that this presentation can create, one may see the message in the style being used. It's not being done to confuse, it's being done to try and get the message across (as some individuals,and we all know one or two, require the truth to be blunt vs. contained in subtle hints).
From what I've seen (at least what I complain to the moderators about) is the posting style - if it's constant, the language (insults for the sake of insults alone - no message in it), trying to pick fights - aka baiting, constant negativity, preaching (vs. debating), blatant spamming and the refusal to listen (my way or the highway).
Since you stated it in the past, I expect that you are aware, that when you get angry you come out swinging. Your made the first swing (so to speak) when posting as PAM:
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Posted By PamM6 on 07/24/2015 2:37 PM
Ok ... at the risk of Tim throwing me off this website (again), I will admit to not being Pam. . . . I have filed a suit against my HOA. I am not going to small claims court, I'm heading to a big one, with big attorneys, from a big law firm. If I thought Tim wouldn't have me forcefully removed, I would share more. . . . If no one hears from me again, it will be because Tim had me banned. Go ahead Tim ... show us all how you have more control of the website than most know. Wield the big stick! all while pretending to be the good guy in the white hat.
When Tim comes back and says "oh, I don't do that, or I won't have you thrown off the website", I still won't talk. When the results are known maybe I'll write and let you know. Maybe I won't. Maybe you'll find my suit on the front page of this website. But I won't deal with the combative trolls on this website who think the only solution is to re-elect a new board or that the board is always right and the HO is always the problem. By the way, if I lose ... I can live with that, but my case looks good. This is a huge cost to the community, but some community needs to be the sacrificial lamb for HOA laws to begin to change.
Prior to that posting, nobody knew who you were, your background or anything else. Your posts to that point were helpful, thought provoking and set in a positive mode (which is the main rule on this site). Then came that posting that gives the impression you have an agenda and a chip on your shoulder, willing to pick a fight - hoping to be banned, just to prove your perspective that I, and perhaps others, are jerks (insert stronger word if desired) is correct.
If your not banned, you continue to place bait in your postings hoping someone will start something so you can lash out. Again, from my perspective, hoping to get banned to prove a point to yourself and perhaps others.
Obviously I did something that you perceived as a personal attack and you blame me directly for having you banned (heck you actually claim that I did the banning). To be honest, I haven't a clue what it was. The threads where that may have occurred no longer appear (I suspect as a result of the previous banning) so I'm unable to discover it on my own.
If your willing to be civil, I'd be happy to discuss what you believe I did or did not do. But lets do that in a different thread.
All I can say is that you had an opportunity to start fresh. To mover forward and either learn from those who post here or have an open forum to teach others. Instead, you chose to try and pick a fight. Why you chose to toss away that opportunity, only you know.
You have chosen to utilize legal action vs. becoming involved by serving on the Board and be part of the decision process. It's not the choice I or others would have chosen. However, it's what you thought would be the best course of action for you. I wish you luck in it in that effort.
Tim