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Posted By CathyS5 on 07/12/2015 7:59 AM
Thanks Jon,
I do know what I'm getting into, which causes me financial hesitation, and I will and have put forth the effort in the past on things like this. I don't do things half way - it has always been all or nothing. When I resigned I had alot of personal things happening {my surgery, my husbands cancer had returned (more surgery), and my son going off into the Army, all within two months}. I just didn't feel like listening to her yell at me every morning while going through that. Yes, she believes that the louder and more times you hear it the more truth there is in it.
The splash pad had been open for 10 years with no problems, and the ones with floaties have always had a parent next to them teaching them to swim.
My main problem with them is that they use our newsletter and social media to single out certain homeowners in order to degrade and harass them. Me being the main one (3 times in 6 months) - they have put my name out there as the one to complain to and then will act and put in print that I do not care for the neighborhood.
If I could I would be like several in the neighborhood and just move, but I'm not in that position yet. I'm really torn and it is wearing on me, I actually get physically sick if I see her or hear her voice. I keep telling myself 5 more years (that is when my youngest graduates) then I'll move, but I love my house. Yes, I love my sanity more. Maybe I should just be the voice of reason and let the younger homeowners fight this fight.
Cathy
You don't get into a fight you cannot win. And that means not a battle but the war! Just how do you see yourself winning this in the end?
Sounds to me like you have a battle now just imagine taking on a recall effort. And be honest with yourself, how many homeowners will fight this with you to the end? How many will go to the wall with you?
Let me offer to you that life is far to short to take on wars that wear you down and drain the enjoyment out of your life. At this point in your life you should be reaping the rewards of raising your son well, enjoying your husband and loving as stress free as possible.
I have come to realize the toll and effort that comes with serving on any HOA board if you do the job right. And contrary to the beliefs of some of the simpleminded who think this is a rewarding position in terms of power, influence and perks in the end it is a thankless, draining position where you never make everyone happy and many days annoy most folks. I have served on my board for 28 years. Apathy is all to common. Stupidity is all to frequent.
Ignorance and acceptance is all to main stream. You end up fighting an uphill battle to protect your interests and those of the other property owners who are to lazy, preoccupied or dumb to understand the management of their biggest investment requires effort.
I was in a head on collision with a drunk driver 35 years ago. Pronounced dead that day. Life can be a lot shorter for you or those you care about than you can ever imagine. 25 years ago I lost my best friend to cancer. She was 35. 6 months of illness and she was gone. Life never comes with a guarantee
As to how long any of us have.
My goal now is to limit my time, effort, and sacrifice put into my board service. In the end, no one cares, no one appreciates your efforts, and they are never ending because something new comes up each day.
Sadly, today's world is filled with entitled fools who think things should be given to them and done for them. Ignorant folks who complain but will are no real effort to help with change. Who look for answers outside their own roles because the easy way out is the only way they know. Now I would guess you have a few folks down there like this. Are you willing to fight their fight? Are you willing to sacrifice you life to fight for them.
"This is not the dress rehearsal, this is the show." Enjoy your show and avoid losing time from your life dealing with miserable loudmouths who are of an HOA fouled power trip. And don't lose time you can never get back from your life fighting for the use of swim toys at a pool while those with kids can't be bothered speaking up. In my view that is not a fight worth taking on.
I avoid A-holes and their drama whenever I can. Don't go out of your way to jump into their world. The price might be higher than you wish to pay or you might ever know.
Enjoy your day. Each and every one of them.....