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Posted By LindaK5 on 02/17/2015 8:49 AM
NpS - I'm appalled at your response to my post. I merely pointed out that there are mental health issues here because this person is volatile and has a history of pretty much being the only person in the community that causes problems. Some years ago she attended an HOA meeting and caused a severe disruption. Hence, I mentioned that when asking about management. As to your other "snide" comments regarding mental health issues in the community .... I'm very familiar with mental health issues, having been diagnosed with one 35 years ago. I also facilitate support groups. It's ridiculous to even consider what you "proposed" in your post, but I suspect it was either an ignorant response or as I said before, a "snide" remark. I'm sorry you feel a need to respond in that way.
I make no apologies for my tongue-in-cheek comments. My opening remark was that nearly 1 in 5 Americans suffers from some form of mental illness. If yours is a 100 unit community with 200 residents, that means that nearly 40 people in your community are afflicted. Yet you want to take action against one person because she is mentally ill and she and her dad informed you that she will be taking care of things now that her dad has moved away. In this latest post, you add that you consider her disruptive and she made a scene one time.
In your prior thread, which I consider to be identical to this one, I made the following recommendation:
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Posted By NpS on 02/09/2015 11:04 PM
You seem to have 2 specific concerns Linda
1. Email that she is now going to manage the unit. I can envision a conversation that dad had with her in which he said that he is moving away, and she now has to take care of certain things herself. And she communicated that to you. If I was in your shoes, I would not make anything of it. He'll continue to pay the assessments. And so far, she hasn't made any unusual demands. So I don't see why it would be necessary to send something formal-looking to her - which could in itself be confusing and disturbing to her. I would simply email her back thanking her for letting the HOA know of the change.
2. Nasty and volatile emails. In my experience, the best approach is to respond to all emails from this person with consistency, friendliness, and simplicity. Be polite and respectful. If she is disrespectful to you, you can always escalate it to her dad.
Many people with emotional limitations are more afraid of you than you are of them. IMO, taking actions that heighten those fears are likely to be counter-productive.
Apparently you didn't like the empathetic approach. So you started a new thread. And when I asked why you were raising the same issue again, you never responded.
Let me offer another scenario that could just border on reality. After you received the daughter's letter that she was taking over, your response was so "snide" that she turned to her dad in distress. He then wrote a second letter confirming what the daughter had said in her first letter. His letter settled her down, because as we know, he is trying to keep the peace.
But you seem to want to pursue this mental health issue even further. Maybe it's time for you to reconsider your own actions before taking offense at a few tongue-in-cheek comments I made.
Sikubali jukumu. Read all posts at your own risk.