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Posted By LindaK5 on 02/09/2015 11:37 AM
I recently received an e-mail from her stating that she is now going to "manage" the townhome. Kind of silly actually - she lives there. What is she going to do to manage it :-) Her father (owner) is moving out of the area and would still be handling the financial aspect of the townhome, so I'm not sure what she is getting at.
My understanding is that the Board/Association communicates with "members" (homeowners) only so I feel like I should not communicate with her, which in itself will probably cause her to send me another nasty e-mail. One of the joys of being in an authoritative position. I have a letter composed to the homeowner with her attached e-mail stating if she is going to manage the unit and communicate with the Board/Association, he would need to pursue a restricted or limited form of a Power of Attorney for this matter and of course, that would not alleviate him of his financial responsibility in regards to townhome expenses, HOA dues, etc.
You seem to have 2 specific concerns Linda
1. Email that she is now going to manage the unit. I can envision a conversation that dad had with her in which he said that he is moving away, and she now has to take care of certain things herself. And she communicated that to you. If I was in your shoes, I would not make anything of it. He'll continue to pay the assessments. And so far, she hasn't made any unusual demands. So I don't see why it would be necessary to send something formal-looking to her - which could in itself be confusing and disturbing to her. I would simply email her back thanking her for letting the HOA know of the change.
2. Nasty and volatile emails. In my experience, the best approach is to respond to all emails from this person with consistency, friendliness, and simplicity. Be polite and respectful. If she is disrespectful to you, you can always escalate it to her dad.
Many people with emotional limitations are more afraid of you than you are of them. IMO, taking actions that heighten those fears are likely to be counter-productive.
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