BanksS
Posts: 403
Posts: 403
Posted:
We all know that we can learn a lot from our mistakes and none of us is perfect. Would you be willing to share your biggest regret or biggest mistake that you feel that you or your association has made in dealing with HOA matters. I think we could all learn a lot from a discussion like this.
I'll go first. I wish that my communication with the BOD when our dispute first started had gone in a different direction. I immediately got very defensive and threw out the lawyer word before we all had an opportunity to sit down and have a discussion about the facts of the situation. When that lawyer word gets thrown out there, the communication stops. Neither party is willing to talk to each other because they might accidentally say something that can be used against them. Our lawyer cautioned us to be very careful about what we said to them if we talked to them at all. I'm pretty confident that the board's attorney told them the same thing. Maybe if I had not started with the legal/lawyer card, the dispute may have been settled before each of us spent thousands of dollars in legal fees. But maybe not. The key player on the board had a big mouth and big ego to match.
I'll go first. I wish that my communication with the BOD when our dispute first started had gone in a different direction. I immediately got very defensive and threw out the lawyer word before we all had an opportunity to sit down and have a discussion about the facts of the situation. When that lawyer word gets thrown out there, the communication stops. Neither party is willing to talk to each other because they might accidentally say something that can be used against them. Our lawyer cautioned us to be very careful about what we said to them if we talked to them at all. I'm pretty confident that the board's attorney told them the same thing. Maybe if I had not started with the legal/lawyer card, the dispute may have been settled before each of us spent thousands of dollars in legal fees. But maybe not. The key player on the board had a big mouth and big ego to match.