Still a very interesting thread. Our community has shared some similar concerns with Board behavior and especially a "rogue" Board member. There is a small group that as I stated before has coordinated our efforts, with advice, to do everything possible to notify the Board of their responsibilities.
The person I refer to as a "rogue" is no longer on the Board due to term limitations. Being a developer though he remains very active in the background and the Board is populated with mostly allies of his including his partner in our community. Most of us recognize he is still the "man behind the curtain". We have been able to change many of the business practices we felt were self-serving to him, but only by constant monitoring, expressing our disagreements, and when needed making governing authorities aware of what has been happening.
I have born the brunt of the response to those of us not willing to look the other way. One of their allies on the same Board I am on, who recently purchased the home next to us (4th home he has lived in in our community of 78 lots) and installed a fence, (only on our side, part wood and part wire!) while being given a variance that has caused much negative feedback in the community (DRC controlled by the developer mentioned.) took us to small claims court this week. They served us Thanksgiving week. They wanted $4000 for me cutting down a tree that I planted a decade ago that my survey and 2 subsequent surveys showed was on our property. (7" red maple with previous damage from a deer rub, even the judge questioned his amount which is the max allowed in KS and was above the estimate, but he also wanted punitive damages which the judge nicely advised they don't do

) They had another survey done after we cut the tree down because they severely damaged it with their mower because they could not cut between our tree and their fence. We cut it down and several small ornamental shrubs on our property that they also scalped with their mower so that they could mow without going onto our land and to keep things from escalating. A friend of ours, a deputy for the county and his wife were over for dinner and saw the damage and how they entered our property to mow even though they stated they would prosecute us if we ever entered their land. Their latest survey showed the tree just inside their property line with the pin driven into the root flair of the stump. The damage occurred Memorial weekend, and so the fence itself (The wood portion was installed with the rough side facing us and the DRC approved part of the fence to be steel T posts and wire with 4" squares, the type used for live stock in a community with homes from $300K plus to $800K), the damage to our plants and the timing of the lawsuit (Holidays) were all done in our opinion as well as the opinion of numerous other residents as part of a continuing and organized campaign to harass us. They have "suggested" multiple times that we should just move.
The case was dismissed after we presented 4 witnesses including the deputy and a farm manager of a major nursery to state the tree was damaged severely. FTR, the previous neighbors loved us, as do our neighbors on the other side, because we always help with their jobs because of equipment I have. (Rural community, 3-12 acre lots.)
I know Melissa will chime in, but a group of us are moving towards legal action as it seems to be the only option left. I find it a joke that some on this site just will not admit the fact that there are small people out there who are so insecure they try and make themselves feel better by lording over anyone too afraid to stand up for themselves. FTR, others have already wanted to go the legal route. I have been the one to date saying not yet, let me get on the Board and try to make changes from within. If I can't do it this way, we will have no other recourse but our suit will at least show we did everything possible first. Acted in Good Faith so to speak, which we have been advised will prove helpful.
So, I can personally relate to what you are experiencing. Notice I did not share the legal challenge before, nor did I come on and gloat about it when decided in our favor 2 days ago. I have no doubt there will be future legal battles, so your husband is correct in asking you not to serve, or to at least consider wisely. Keep the faith! For my wife and I, not having children which gives us a little flexibility, we think this is the kind of action true American loving Patriots are obligated to take. You have my sincere respect and gratitude. Remember, their will be trials and hardships along the way, be brave and unwavering and find good allies-people of similar character to you! We have had great support which has made this ordeal bearable to my wife and I, and the others are quickly losing the little support they had but their arrogance blinds them to this fact. Best wishes!