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Posted By KellyM3 on 08/14/2013 6:40 PM
An elder resident dies and the HOA board moves quickly to evict the disabled child who was dependent on his/her parent. Man. I'm guessing the HOA board members took the courageous "send them letters from the lawyer and threaten" approach to enforcing this one.
I would hope the board would handle this with a little more compassion (perhaps give relatives a year or so to get the disabled person moved to another place or perhaps bring in the local department of aging or disability services to assist..) That said, as crass as this may sound, if this is a 55+ community that has to abide by HUD rules, then that's what it has to do.
That's why people in similar situations need to make plans. This happened in my family - one of my cousins is intellectually disabled and lived all of his life with another relative. One of her daughters had promised to look after him if something happened to her, but unfortunately by the time her mother died of cancer, circumstances had changed and she couldn't do it. The deceased cousin's husband was also having his own health issues and couldn't care for my cousin and he ended up in a nursing home (fortunately, it's a pretty decent one and everyone works to keep tabs on him).
As the country ages, there are many disabled people who've lived with their parents all their lives and now the parents have health problems that may put them in an assisted living or nursing home facility - suddenly the question becomes what will happen to the child, especially if he/she doesn't qualify to live there.
If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius