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MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
Approximately 2 months ago.
My spouse who is disabled and has memory issues was denied the ability to provide an external lock box on our property which is same as what our realtors use.

My husband's memory issues is related to a well known disease that our board is well aware of. For the last 5 years we have kept alongside our other realtor lock boxes a key to not only our home, but the front door just as the realtors have. In November we found that our box was removed without notice by our current BOD.

Saying that I asked for a replacement which would replace the box which they removed without notice.

We currently have NO RULES prohibiting lock boxes on the property either in our rules or ccr's. I know I checked.

In November our HOA denied to replace the lock box. I submitted in writing to please allow my husband to have access to a lock box ( as he has forgotten his keys multiple times directly related to his memory issues from his progressive neurological disease ) I explained this to our BOD in that written request.. dated November 14, 2012.

I never heard back from our board or our PM. Today I researched the original email and found the date and the request never answered. I emailed our HOA and the PM.

The HOA president texted me.. and told me this. "No lock boxes are allowed in the common area.". I asked here where are the realtor places theres? She said "In the comomon area." I asked her to reference the rule regarding placment of the realtor boxes or denial of homeowners having access to such. That question went unanswered.

We are fully prepared to seek legal guidance. My husband has against his wishes provided the HOA with his health history in attempt to provide them the justification for this request to accommodate his disability which has been denied.

There doesn't seem to be much more we can do here except talk to our attorney.. or is there? I hate pushing the atty threat on our board, but they got that in our first email request.
Please advise..

JonD1
Posts: 2,350
Posted:
Michelle:

You might want to tell us in what type of property you reside. Condo, single family home, townhouses????

I would guess NOT single family homes.

Seems to me the Board or Board President is acting like an ass if in fact your details are accurate.

Have you had ANY issues with the Board previous to this?

We had a similar situation when a resident asked to have a privae single mailbox installed inside our building rather than her having the mail delivered o our ouside bank mailboxes. Her physical limitations made this necessary. Some on the Board were in fact against this I myself saw no other human option but to allow this.

IMO people dealing with true medical issues should be accomodated as much as possible understanding the claims are factual.

Why the President would be against this might require an explanation.

If a unit is for sale or rent where do the realtors secure their lockboxes? In the same place you wish to secure yours? Is this YOUR door or a common entrance door.

Rather than escalating this matter to the legal level I would look to attend the next Board meeting with the entire Board membership and present your case. Hopefully, doing the right hing versus what the President deems correct might prevail. I wish you luck and I am so sorry for what you and your husband are dealing with.

Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.

There is in fact the letter of the law versus the meaning of the law.
Being human gives us the wisdom to know the difference.....

MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
This is a multi level condo building. The common area in reference is an area next to our garage area.. the area the locks on are on wrought iron bars on one of our security windows. Currently there are 4 locks on the window today.

I hope this helps.
GlenL (Ohio)
Posts: 5,491
Posted:
Michelle I'm not unsympathetic to your plight but the first question I would ask as a Board member would be for you to explain how he cannot remember his keys but can remember the combination to the lock box. Perhaps an easier approach would be to have him wear the two keys around his neck like military dog tags. If the Board turns you down you could file a claim under the ADA, a lock box that you provide seems like a reasonable accommodation to me.

Studies show that 5 out of 4 people have problems with fractions
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
Ignorance of this disease kills me. With all due respect.. My husbands memory for long term is in tact. Our Lock box #'s may be his birthday, or another special number that is long locked into his memory.

To even suggest that I hurt my spouses pride and dignity and put keys around my husbands neck is nothing short of looney.

I am working against the ignorance or our HOA board as you can easily understand. The board has turned down our request, as outlined by above.

I am sorry if I personalized this but your response to me sir.. is well, kind of shocking!

GlenL (Ohio)
Posts: 5,491
Posted:
Michelle that is a reasonable answer to a question that had to be asked. Although I fail to see how putting keys around his neck hurts his pride or dignity but if it does I would think that would be better than being locked out.

Studies show that 5 out of 4 people have problems with fractions
SteveM9 (Massachusetts)
Posts: 3,699
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Quote:
To even suggest that I hurt my spouses pride and dignity and put keys around my husbands neck is nothing short of looney.


You need to be willing to think outside the box and come up with creative ideas like key around the neck or shoe. Its only a matter of time until he forgets the code. You really need to be flexible or you will be disappointed.

I've never heard of a lock box being a medical device. You cant demand people meet whatever need you desire because of a disability. Doesn't work that way.
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
ADA... yes we can make request to meet disability. This is a reasonable request.. Already have an atty in the background. Frankly.. I am shocked and really taken back my the comments.. Its only a matter of time until he forgets the code. and lets put a key around a grown mans neck.

If you are on any sort of HOA board. I really feel for you or your loved one's of they every get a disabling diagnosis. Lets put a key on your 45 year old wifes neck sir and see if that makes her feel any less of a human.

LOONEY!! good night.

MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
ADA... yes we can make request to meet disability. This is a reasonable request.. Already have an atty in the background. Frankly.. I am shocked and really taken back my the comments.. Its only a matter of time until he forgets the code. and lets put a key around a grown mans neck.

If you are on any sort of HOA board your prejudgement( on a disease you are ignorant on ) shocks the hell out of me!!
I really feel for you if your loved one's every get a disabling diagnosis. Lets put a key on your 45 year old wife's neck sir and see if that makes her feel any less of a human with dignity intact. OMFG
I am not looking here for any further advice if this is what you kooks can muster up.
My atty feels a letter may shock them enough to get the answer and the right one.
SteveM9 (Massachusetts)
Posts: 3,699
Posted:
I can see, your unwilling to think outside the box and your only goal is to win this battle at any cost.

Ever thought of a door lock with fingerprint reader? $100

There are plenty of other idea out there, if your open to it.
SteveM9 (Massachusetts)
Posts: 3,699
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Quote:
Lets put a key on your 45 year old wifes neck sir and see if that makes her feel any less of a human.


If she regularly lost her key, my wife would gladly wear a key instead of being stuck in a hallway for hours.
SheliaH (Indiana)
Posts: 6,964
Posted:
Is there a support group in your area for people with your husband's diagnosis? If so, perhaps they can come up with some approaches that can address the problem. they might even visit your home and look around the area to come up with something. If there is no such group, there may be some sort of independent living agency who can help (start with your local agency on aging)

As far as a key around your husband's neck is concerned, I'm not sure that's a dignity issue either, but maybe some sort of dog tag bracelet with a key might also work (similar to those medical ID bracelets for people with certain conditions like diabetes)

If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius
GlenL (Ohio)
Posts: 5,491
Posted:
Michelle I'm almost at the point where I will be forced to use a walker to get around. I would rather use the walker than have to be picked up off the ground, now that would hurt my pride and dignity.

Studies show that 5 out of 4 people have problems with fractions
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
Husband is too alert to be tagged with keys. Yes, he says this hurts his dignity. What you are willing to do and what others are .. are not necessarily the same.

You can't compare using a walker and the keys.. My husband already uses an assistive device.. he has no issues using that but he openly said when he saw your posts.

Is that guy joking???!! I honestly thought it was a joke..

None the less the issue is a very small request was denied with nothing to back it by our own HOA BOD. No rules prohibiting such and a flighty HOA PREZ who is quick to make decisions for her entire board.. via text message of all things! can now answer to an atty on behalf of her HOA BOD.

MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
That is not acceptable by my spouse and I support him. What he says would hurt his dignity.. does.
LarryB13 (Arizona)
Posts: 4,099
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Posted By MichelleC7 on 01/06/2013 6:58 PM
on a disease you are ignorant on

We are ignorant because you have not disclosed the nature of the disease or condition. You seem to be concealing the problem as if you are ashamed of it and then blasting those who offer help.

Do not rant and rave at me as I have no plans to offer you any advice.
GlenL (Ohio)
Posts: 5,491
Posted:
Michelle if you re-read my posts, I agree that the lockbox is a reasonable accommodation, since you are so set against him wearing keys which I still think is perfectly reasonable and not demeaning in the least, how about a simple note next to the door. TAKE YOUR KEYS or if that is too demeaning DO YOU HAVE YOUR KEYS?

Studies show that 5 out of 4 people have problems with fractions
FredO (California)
Posts: 198
Posted:
Michelle,

Sorry for what you're going through with your HOA and very sorry about your husbands illness. What you are asking for is definitely reasonable especially since there are already other lock boxes there. One more is not going to hurt and if it looks like the others it will certainly blend in.

The ADA allows for "ANY" reasonable accommodation for a disability.

I would hate to be your HOA board at the end of the day as they are going to be on the wrong end of this one for sure.
Not only have your attorney send them a strongly worded letter, but as a back up, maybe consider contacting the Social Security office or some other agency.
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
Quote:
Posted By GlenL on 01/06/2013 7:52 PM
Michelle if you re-read my posts, I agree that the lockbox is a reasonable accommodation, since you are so set against him wearing keys which I still think is perfectly reasonable and not demeaning in the least, how about a simple note next to the door. TAKE YOUR KEYS or if that is too demeaning DO YOU HAVE YOUR KEYS?

Glen, while I know your response has good intentions I appreciate that. But please quit while your ahead man.
Don't judge someone's disability unless you have walked a mile in their
shoes. If you are a board member which I suspect you are.. I hope you practice more of an open mind to peoples own sensitivities and needs for we are all not like you, your wife, your neighbor etc.
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
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Quote:
Posted By LarryB13 on 01/06/2013 7:46 PM
Posted By MichelleC7 on 01/06/2013 6:58 PM
on a disease you are ignorant on


We are ignorant because you have not disclosed the nature of the disease or condition. You seem to be concealing the problem as if you are ashamed of it and then blasting those who offer help.

Do not rant and rave at me as I have no plans to offer you any advice.

Why is it that everyone needs to know WTF the disability is?? Saying it's a progressive nueroglic disease should suffice... It is our right not to blast our personal diagnosis on a freaking public forum. Your lack of tact an or empathy shocks the hell out of me.. really. I hope you practice differently if you are a board member.
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
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Posted By FredO on 01/06/2013 8:11 PM
Michelle,

Sorry for what you're going through with your HOA and very sorry about your husbands illness. What you are asking for is definitely reasonable especially since there are already other lock boxes there. One more is not going to hurt and if it looks like the others it will certainly blend in.

The ADA allows for "ANY" reasonable accommodation for a disability.

I would hate to be your HOA board at the end of the day as they are going to be on the wrong end of this one for sure.
Not only have your attorney send them a strongly worded letter, but as a back up, maybe consider contacting the Social Security office or some other agency.

Well at least there is a sound post here. Thank you for telling me I should put keys around my husband neck as "he will forget the lock code at some point".

I appreciate your response and I have already contacted a local HOA atty.. who is willing to assist with this. The ADA is to protect people with disabilities, to provide them with reasonable accommodations and prevent discriminatory action.
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
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Quote:
Posted By MichelleC7 on 01/06/2013 8:30 PM
Posted By FredO on 01/06/2013 8:11 PM
Michelle,

Sorry for what you're going through with your HOA and very sorry about your husbands illness. What you are asking for is definitely reasonable especially since there are already other lock boxes there. One more is not going to hurt and if it looks like the others it will certainly blend in.

The ADA allows for "ANY" reasonable accommodation for a disability.

I would hate to be your HOA board at the end of the day as they are going to be on the wrong end of this one for sure.
Not only have your attorney send them a strongly worded letter, but as a back up, maybe consider contacting the Social Security office or some other agency.


Well at least there is a sound post here. Thank you for not telling me I should put keys around my husband neck as "he will forget the lock code at some point anyway" SMH

I appreciate your response and I have already contacted a local HOA atty.. who is willing to assist with this. The ADA is to protect people with disabilities, to provide them with reasonable accommodations and prevent discriminatory action.
LarryB13 (Arizona)
Posts: 4,099
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I think it's pretty clear now why you are getting no cooperation from your board.
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
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Posted By LarryB13 on 01/06/2013 8:32 PM
I think it's pretty clear now why you are getting no cooperation from your board.

If thats the case, they may change their mind on this one. Ignorance scares the hell out of me when BOD make such blatently illegal decisions, making up rules as they go along. NOTHING in our ccrs and or rule prohibit this, and to just say "no" without an explanation when asked what is the reasoning.

Frankly I am done here. I managed to get some helpful information despite all the rubbish offered.
FredO (California)
Posts: 198
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Posted By LarryB13 on 01/06/2013 8:32 PM
I think it's pretty clear now why you are getting no cooperation from your board.

Larry,

I am sorry for you to say such a thing. The lady and her husband are obviously under a LOT of stress with the illness. I am sure that her posts on this website are not her first attempt at seeking a reasonable accommodation for her situation. Maybe she is posting here at the end of a long line of trying other avenues. The frustration is clearly evident and I am sure that a little bit of compassion by you and ALL of us on this website are in order.

Your attitude is very reflective of some of the people I have dealt with on my own board. Pure and disgusting ignorance and a complete lack of compassion. In many of my posts I have indicated that a lot of problems would be avoided by us "just being good neighbors".

The unfortunate reality is that this website is no different than any of the boards of directors out there. I have read many of your posts where you have offered sound advice and I have come to appreciate much of what you wrote. You now demean and belittle yourself by insulting Michelle.

I am sure Michelle's issue is one that you board members on this site could benefit from and serve as an education as the babyboomer get older and face many of these same diseases in coming years. I think every single one of us on the website has something to contribute and we all learn something new each day (at least I do by coming here).

Please Larry, step back and re-read the thread and see if you are lacking compassion. The issue is strongly emotional for Michelle and while you are vapor locked in stating she is inflexible, you certainly are not giving her any credit for maybe trying a bunch of alternatives prior to her posting here.

Do the right here, cut her and her husband some slack on this one.

FredO (California)
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Posted By SteveM9 on 01/06/2013 6:45 PM
To even suggest that I hurt my spouses pride and dignity and put keys around my husbands neck is nothing short of looney.


You need to be willing to think outside the box and come up with creative ideas like key around the neck or shoe. Its only a matter of time until he forgets the code. You really need to be flexible or you will be disappointed.

I've never heard of a lock box being a medical device. You cant demand people meet whatever need you desire because of a disability. Doesn't work that way.

Steve, I have some experience with the ADA. The law is vague so as to include things like this request. A reasonable request or accommodation need not be a medical device to offer assistance to a disabled person.

In a tower condo HOA wouldn't you want to be known as ADA friendly so as to extend your potential client/customer base? Why cut your nose to spite your face by earning the reputation of being ADA un-friendly. As the abby-boomer generation continues to age and live longer due to modern medicine, these sorts of issues are going to be come more common.

All HOA's would be well advised to understand the ADA and comply with it. It is the LAW after all.

SteveM9 (Massachusetts)
Posts: 3,699
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As any board member here knows, this stuff gets out of hand.

Google

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Reasonable, is in the eye of the beholder.
FredO (California)
Posts: 198
Posted:
Steve,

the OP did not state if ALL the lock boxes were removed. Hers was for sure. If all lock boxes were removed then that might change things just a little bit. However, since there is nothing in her governing documents to forbid lockboxes and she has made a valid request for accommodation, I fear that the HOA board is definitely in the wrong on this one.

i find your pictures to be funny. It is ironic, since the lockboxes are primarily for use by real estate agents for selling a home. So this puts you and all board members in some sort of conundrum since if you don't allow them then residents can sell their homes. The selling of homes, for the most part help raise property values through comps.

Outlaw lockboxes (or even complain about them) and you do yourselves and all owners a disservice.

Question for pondering - if you have a property that has THAT many homes for sale simultaneously then you have some serious issues within the HOA (either with the board, or with the construction). If I saw that many lockboxes on display like that, I would just drive on by as I've seen enough.

SteveM9 (Massachusetts)
Posts: 3,699
Posted:
Another idea: Put the lockbox on somewhere else nearby like a public fence. Doesn't need to be on the condo property.
TimB4 (Tennessee)
Posts: 21,059
Posted:
Michelle,

There are door locks on the market that don't require keys.
Have you checked into those as an alternative?
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
Posted:
That may be an option but not where we live. No such thing near by. Btw when our box was removed.... we had 6 lock boxes on our gate. Now there is 4. Removing ours and another one. Its not like that funny picture posted. Our request is not like that nix of ours was hurting anything. The judgement received here and apathy does reflect that of many hoas including my own. The hugest comment asking what my
Husband d has and I must be embaraased by it really saddens me. Its not needed to share private medical information or diagnosis. It could be MS …ALL… ( Lou Gherigs) AIDS dementia ...or an early diagnosis of Parkinson's. All of which cause memory issues.. and all can be the qualifying diagnosis for a disability. It doesn't matter what it is. Ignorance and nlatent ignorance of laws by BODS when it comes to basic ADA scares me as an ex BOD and homeowner. Peoples lack of real knowledge and flighty judgemntal actions are viewed as a huge potential legal liability. Too many patty's out there are in business as a ADA specialty! Mine is no different.....
BruceF1 (Connecticut)
Posts: 2,535
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People often get confused and believe that it is the ADA that requires reasonable accommodations for a person with a disability. It is not. HOA's do not come under the ADA. It is the Fair Housing Act that requires reasonable accommodations, and HOAs are affected by the FHA. Furthermore, the FHA prohibits HOAs from inquiring into the nature of the disability or requiring a doctor's statement.

The Department of Justice and the Department of Housing and Urban Development have issued a joint publication titled, "Reasonable Modifications Under the Fair Housing Act." You can download a pdf copy by googling that title, or go directly to the following website:

http://www.hud.gov/offices/fheo/library/huddojstatement.pdf

(Just enter the above url into your browser's search or url bar.) You can try giving a copy of that document to your board.

By the way, I always carry my keys in my pants pocket. Whenever I change my pants I transfer everything in my pockets from my old pair into my new pair. I'm never without my wallet or my keys, unless I'm not wearing my pants (as when I'm home still in my pajamas). I might forget my glasses or my watch, which are kept on top of the microwave, but never my wallet or my keys.

MichelleC7 (California)
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Posted By BruceF1 on 01/07/2013 5:25 AM
People often get confused and believe that it is the ADA that requires reasonable accommodations for a person with a disability. It is not. HOA's do not come under the ADA. It is the Fair Housing Act that requires reasonable accommodations, and HOAs are affected by the FHA. Furthermore, the FHA prohibits HOAs from inquiring into the nature of the disability or requiring a doctor's statement.

The Department of Justice and the Department of Housing and Urban Development have issued a joint publication titled, "Reasonable Modifications Under the Fair Housing Act." You can download a pdf copy by googling that title, or go directly to the following website:

http://www.hud.gov/offices/fheo/library/huddojstatement.pdf

(Just enter the above url into your browser's search or url bar.) You can try giving a copy of that document to your board.

By the way, I always carry my keys in my pants pocket. Whenever I change my pants I transfer everything in my pockets from my old pair into my new pair. I'm never without my wallet or my keys, unless I'm not wearing my pants (as when I'm home still in my pajamas). I might forget my glasses or my watch, which are kept on top of the microwave, but never my wallet or my keys.
My husband often forgets his wallet to. Your right about the law and disclosure. Ada vs Fha are very similiar. However the issue is a lock box.. option #2 my friend a realtor offered to give me one if his personalized boxes. He will be like the other boxes.... nobody will be non the wiser. Meanwhile our board will be dealt with to "train " them about Fha / Ada accommodations via our atty. Unfortunately its his people often learn how wrong their actions have been when in the other side of receiving a letter from an arty.

SteveM9 (Massachusetts)
Posts: 3,699
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People are curious and have every right to ask about his condition. You have every right to not answer, but there is no need to get so upset at the people asking.
MichelleC7 (California)
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Posted By SteveM9 on 01/07/2013 6:17 AM
People are curious and have every right to ask about his condition. You have every right to not answer, but there is no need to get so upset at the people asking.

Does it matter what the condition is? No...and frankly its confidential! His diagnosis is our business and to wonder what it is is frankly nobodys business. Doesn't matted what the nature of his illness whether its MS ALS or PARKINSON'S... ignorance.remains the same.
MelissaP1 (Alabama)
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Yes it kind of does matter what his condition is. If your going to fill out the forms for things for compensation or privileges due to his condition, your going to have to write it down. Why keep it a secret? Sounds like having an issue of accepting the fact that someone now has a condition in their life that needs a little extra attention. How is it someone is to show that attention if they don't know it exists or what it is?

I had a lady in our HOA who for about few weeks I noticed some strange behavior. She would be standing in her front yard sometimes looking like she was waiting on someone to pick her up. This caught my eye as she was elderly and did not see her outside besides maybe working in the yard. I had had conversations with her in the past and had once help get her car alarm to stop going off. Finally, a family member contacted me. It turns out she had the beginning signs of Alzheimers. They needed someone to keep an eye on her and out for her until they could transfer her to a home. If I had not been made aware of this, she may have gotten hurt. Plus I had to make sure a certain "handyman" stayed away from her because he was ripping her off.

It was no big deal but very helpful to all involved. I was able to understand and help her in the appropriate ways needed. So learn to accept the condition and let those who may need to interact with him know. They can surprise you by helping you. Many people here did now didn't they?

Former HOA President
TimB4 (Tennessee)
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Posted By MichelleC7 on 01/07/2013 5:19 AM
That may be an option but not where we live. No such thing near by.

Was this response to my suggestion of using a key-less door lock on your front door?

Local hardware stores have them, they may be ordered online and, I suspect, any locksmith would be able to provide one.

Using a key-less entry system would likely resolve the issue.

Yes, I agree, they should have informed you about removing the lock box. Unfortunately, they didn't. Here is an alternative that would likely be a compromise to forgetting a key and accommodating that forgetfulness without the need for a lock box.

SteveM9 (Massachusetts)
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It appears to me, "your" attitude and hostility toward people is what is causing the HOA to not work with you. The people who run the HOA are human, and if you yell at them, threaten with lawyers, you will see a very natural human response. They will fight you. This factor has nothing to do with your husband's disability and maybe sheds light on a disability of your own. Try being nicer and play the game.

"You catch more flies with honey than vinegar", which means being sweet-tempered will get you what you want sooner than being sour-tempered.
FredO (California)
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Posted By TimB4 on 01/07/2013 7:35 AM
Posted By MichelleC7 on 01/07/2013 5:19 AM
That may be an option but not where we live. No such thing near by.


Was this response to my suggestion of using a key-less door lock on your front door?

Local hardware stores have them, they may be ordered online and, I suspect, any locksmith would be able to provide one.

Using a key-less entry system would likely resolve the issue.

Yes, I agree, they should have informed you about removing the lock box. Unfortunately, they didn't. Here is an alternative that would likely be a compromise to forgetting a key and accommodating that forgetfulness without the need for a lock box.


Tim,

I gathered from Michelle's post's that there are TWO keys needed for access. One to get in the building and the second to get in to her unit. While the keyless entry for her unit might work, it seems reasonable that a keyless entry for access to the Condo complex itself will not.

Besides, if the HOA in this case is so up in arms over lock boxes, what do they say about the keyless entry for her unit. I am sure it will look different than all the other units and they won't approve it.
LauraR5 (Tennessee)
Posts: 220
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We have townhomes with no central gate like the one shown in the picture or in Michelle's case, but I am pretty sure our CC&Rs say that if your house isn't for sale you can't have a lockbox on your door. We do not have any guidelines as far as what type of door lock you use as far as I know.

I know about MS, ALS, Alzheimer's etc. because of my line of work. However, I will say there is a learning curve for most of the general public on these diseases. Having worked with an organization that pursued ADA and FHA complaints for its members, I also know about reasonable accommodations. I also know that sometimes you have to politely educate folks on what you want before you start threatening them under these laws.

All that being said, I would think a realtor lock box seems reasonable, although even with my background, I probably would've asked what happens on that inevitable day when he forgets the code. As an HOA board member, I can also see how having tons of lock boxes is not only unsightly but poses a security issue for the building.

At the end of the day, these folks are your neighbors. And, while you don't have to disclose all the details of your husband's illness, it probably wouldn't hurt if those sharing the same space as him knew enough about it to help and understand him a little better. Perhaps doing that will help you all come up with a solution that will work for everyone and keep his dignity intact. If you need help exploring solutions, I'm positive the folks at your local Center for Independent Living would love to come out and help you make accommodations.

Knowledge is power.
MichelleC7 (California)
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Posted By MelissaP1 on 01/07/2013 7:32 AM
Yes it kind of does matter what his condition is. If your going to fill out the forms for things for compensation or privileges due to his condition, your going to have to write it down. Why keep it a secret? Sounds like having an issue of accepting the fact that someone now has a condition in their life that needs a little extra attention. How is it someone is to show that attention if they don't know it exists or what it is?

I had a lady in our HOA who for about few weeks I noticed some strange behavior. She would be standing in her front yard sometimes looking like she was waiting on someone to pick her up. This caught my eye as she was elderly and did not see her outside besides maybe working in the yard. I had had conversations with her in the past and had once help get her car alarm to stop going off. Finally, a family member contacted me. It turns out she had the beginning signs of Alzheimers. They needed someone to keep an eye on her and out for her until they could transfer her to a home. If I had not been made aware of this, she may have gotten hurt. Plus I had to make sure a certain "handyman" stayed away from her because he was ripping her off.

It was no big deal but very helpful to all involved. I was able to understand and help her in the appropriate ways needed. So learn to accept the condition and let those who may need to interact with him know. They can surprise you by helping you. Many people here did now didn't they?

our board and nejghbkrs know what my husbands has. I RE
FredO (California)
Posts: 198
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Basically, there is no excuse for the boards behavior. I am sure that Michelle had gone through all the previous and "polite" discussions trying in vain to get accommodation from her board. After multiple attempts, there are no cheeks left to turn.

I think this situation is an excellent example to learn from. Some of you on the board are still saying that michelle needs to have a softer approach and gently educate her Board. Seems to me, she has done all that and there is no cure for stupidity.

I ask you, where the heck is the compassion from the board or even from those of you reading and responding to this thread?

You say it is natural curiosity to ask what the diagnosis is yet, you have no right to the info under the law. Sure, we are curious and she has stated that she has informed the board of the nature of the illness. So, her board has all the facts. So, why then is there no accommodation being offered?

You say her attitude is reason for the lack of understanding by the board. Well, who did what first? Does it matter? All it takes is one idiot on the board to make things go bad. In reading the OP, she stated that the president has taken to giving an immediate response via text message without consultation of the board. So this looks very clear cut to me, that it is the "attitude" of the president making snap judgements without proper discussion or board protocol.

The Board cut her box down without removing all the boxes. Seems pretty intentional on the surface. (She stated there were 6 lockboxes, now there are 4). What is the explanation for this? Seems inconsistent to me.

I think this is more a personal issue with the ignorance of the single board member.

MichelleC7 (California)
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Posted By MichelleC7 on 01/07/2013 10:30 AM
Posted By MelissaP1 on 01/07/2013 7:32 AM
Yes it kind of does matter what his condition is. If your going to fill out the forms for things for compensation or privileges due to his condition, your going to have to write it down. Why keep it a secret? Sounds like having an issue of accepting the fact that someone now has a condition in their life that needs a little extra attention. How is it someone is to show that attention if they don't know it exists or what it is?

I had a lady in our HOA who for about few weeks I noticed some strange behavior. She would be standing in her front yard sometimes looking like she was waiting on someone to pick her up. This caught my eye as she was elderly and did not see her outside besides maybe working in the yard. I had had conversations with her in the past and had once help get her car alarm to stop going off. Finally, a family member contacted me. It turns out she had the beginning signs of Alzheimers. They needed someone to keep an eye on her and out for her until they could transfer her to a home. If I had not been made aware of this, she may have gotten hurt. Plus I had to make sure a certain "handyman" stayed away from her because he was ripping her off.

It was no big deal but very helpful to all involved. I was able to understand and help her in the appropriate ways needed. So learn to accept the condition and let those who may need to interact with him know. They can surprise you by helping you. Many people here did now didn't they?


Our board and neighbors know what my husbands has. They all watched him struggle with an exacerbation this summer. I refuse to post what his medical condition is on this website. I suppose you didn't read that I refuse to post it on a public forum?

FredO (California)
Posts: 198
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Michelle,

Since you live in Calif and we have the Davis-Sterling Act, you may want to use the procedures outlined in the ACT. For example, before you deliver your letter from your attorney to the board, maybe request an executive session with your board to discuss (as rationally as possible) your request.

You can also use the ADR process which starts with the "Meet & Confer" process where the board selects one member to meet with you 1-on-1. If you reach a resolution it is supposed to be binding under the law.

Don't know if you have tried these, I am assuming you have tried these and/or more. Maybe give it another shot.

One more thing to discuss with your lawyer; the fact that the Board now knows of his illness and they have taken the actions they have already done, there is now a possible "legal liability" to the hoa if your husband is locked out and something happens to him.

I think they call it "depraved indifference". The board is not allowed to hide their head in the sand an allow something bad to happen. I am no lawyer but I think that once you have made the HOA (BoD) aware of his illness, they now have a legal responsibility to some degree.

Seems like your reasonable request for accommodation is a lot cheaper in the long than a bodily injury lawsuit with punitive damages attached because the Board had knowledge of his condition.

I know others on this website will not like this approach but you have to do what you think is best for your situation. Sometimes a board will only learn from the school of hard knocks.

For your Condo, as people get older, this sort of thing will likely become more commonplace. You may be the first but certainly won't be the last. I think all HOA's can learn from this example as this same issue faces many of them or will.
JohnB26 (South Carolina)
Posts: 1,569
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fingerprint door lock

http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=Weatherproof+Fingerprint+Door+Lock&FORM=RESTAB
MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
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Posted By FredO on 01/07/2013 10:49 AM
Basically, there is no excuse for the boards behavior. I am sure that Michelle had gone through all the previous and "polite" discussions trying in vain to get accommodation from her board. After multiple attempts, there are no cheeks left to turn.

I think this situation is an excellent example to learn from. Some of you on the board are still saying that michelle needs to have a softer approach and gently educate her Board. Seems to me, she has done all that and there is no cure for stupidity.

I ask you, where the heck is the compassion from the board or even from those of you reading and responding to this thread?

You say it is natural curiosity to ask what the diagnosis is yet, you have no right to the info under the law. Sure, we are curious and she has stated that she has informed the board of the nature of the illness. So, her board has all the facts. So, why then is there no accommodation being offered?

You say her attitude is reason for the lack of understanding by the board. Well, who did what first? Does it matter? All it takes is one idiot on the board to make things go bad. In reading the OP, she stated that the president has taken to giving an immediate response via text message without consultation of the board. So this looks very clear cut to me, that it is the "attitude" of the president making snap judgements without proper discussion or board protocol.

The Board cut her box down without removing all the boxes. Seems pretty intentional on the surface. (She stated there were 6 lockboxes, now there are 4). What is the explanation for this? Seems inconsistent to me.

I think this is more a personal issue with the ignorance of the single board member.


I thank you so much for your post. I am going to make this very very clear. My husbands disability is WELL KNOWN in our community. I am an advocate for his disease and we BOTH are hugely incolved with fundraising with our local chapter of this disorder. So much that the WALK that is taking place in our community this summer for fundraising has two of our neighbors ( one of which is an ex board member) walking on our WALK team. The President has seen my husband at his worst.. she has even witnessed him losing his keys and had to call a locksmith onsite. Truth be in conversation.. this heartless person ( the president ) told me, You just have to deal with his losing his keys, I locked myself out of my unit and had to call a locksmith just like you. Excuse me to her I say... do you have plagues of missing myelin sheath in your brain? My husband does.. you can't compare yourself to his forgetfulness. Her refusal text to me.. which is being held for my atty shows just what I an dealing with.

My President is NOT ignorant,but rather something else that I will allow you to come to a conclusion. The HOA BOD consists of her neighbors, which she also is friends with and socialize with. I plan to add myself on to the running for BOD this year.. just to help with the other issues that they BOD has had and really could use some help.

I am a victim or rather we are being victimized by a BOD/ President who is ignoring some basic requests for a simple accommodation of a physical ailment yes.. the disease is physical bur also attacks the CNS like all good neurological diseases. Our BOD has made it clear they are done with my requests. I have tried both informally and formally and now am left seeking help here... and online with attorneys. Thank you again for you insight and support.
FredO (California)
Posts: 198
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Posted By JohnB26 on 01/07/2013 11:09 AM
fingerprint door lock

http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=Weatherproof+Fingerprint+Door+Lock&FORM=RESTAB

I think the problem is that there are two keys required to gain entry. One for the building and the second for her actual unit.

I agree that the finger-print door lock might be a viable solution for her unit (doubtful in that this will look much different than the other units and probably will be rejected by her board).

The other aspect is for the entry to the building. The finger print door lock is most likely unfeasible for this application. How many hundreds of people would need to be scanned in, who will do it and how much will it cost? In this instance, the lockbox with key is a very in ex-pensive way to go.

MichelleC7 (California)
Posts: 108
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Posted By FredO on 01/07/2013 11:04 AM
Michelle,

Since you live in Calif and we have the Davis-Sterling Act, you may want to use the procedures outlined in the ACT. For example, before you deliver your letter from your attorney to the board, maybe request an executive session with your board to discuss (as rationally as possible) your request.

You can also use the ADR process which starts with the "Meet & Confer" process where the board selects one member to meet with you 1-on-1. If you reach a resolution it is supposed to be binding under the law.

Don't know if you have tried these, I am assuming you have tried these and/or more. Maybe give it another shot.

One more thing to discuss with your lawyer; the fact that the Board now knows of his illness and they have taken the actions they have already done, there is now a possible "legal liability" to the hoa if your husband is locked out and something happens to him.

I think they call it "depraved indifference". The board is not allowed to hide their head in the sand an allow something bad to happen. I am no lawyer but I think that once you have made the HOA (BoD) aware of his illness, they now have a legal responsibility to some degree.

Seems like your reasonable request for accommodation is a lot cheaper in the long than a bodily injury lawsuit with punitive damages attached because the Board had knowledge of his condition.

I know others on this website will not like this approach but you have to do what you think is best for your situation. Sometimes a board will only learn from the school of hard knocks.

For your Condo, as people get older, this sort of thing will likely become more commonplace. You may be the first but certainly won't be the last. I think all HOA's can learn from this example as this same issue faces many of them or will.

We already had 1 incident this month of a frail eldery lady who locked herself out on her balcony om the 3rd floor outside in 40 degree weather... She was lucky someone saw her! If nobody saw her poor thing could of suffered hypothermia in just a short amount of time. Yes, this is not a BOD issue really, but it points where we are all going. We are living longer and along with that comes a whole slew of other issues. ( Despite my husband only being in his mid 40's..its not to unsimiliar)
LauraR5 (Tennessee)
Posts: 220
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So, it seems to be a personal attack from the president of the HOA. I guess I didn't realize that before. I just figured they removed any lockboxes that didn't belong to a unit that was for sale.

Does the organization your husband is a part of have consumer advocates. For example, I worked at the Paralyzed Veterans of America and if you had an ADA issue, they would help you with their attorneys to try to get a compromise. Sometimes having an organization on board will spur people along when one person won't. Like I said previously, your local Center for Independent Living should also help with this because their goal is to keep your husband at home as long as possible.

If there's no talking to them, then you may have to pursue legal action. It seems silly over a door lock, but if they are really that disinterested in finding a solution than that may be the way to go. But see if you can get help from an advocacy group to minimize your out-of-pocket expense on it.

I have just dealt with a lot of people who are ignorant to ADA accommodations, either with folks in wheelchairs when I worked at PVA or with my friend who is blind, that I always suggest education as a first step. Nine times out of ten, it has worked for me. Unless folks know someone who has a disability, there is a lot of ignorance about accommodations.
MichelleC7 (California)
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Posted By LauraR5 on 01/07/2013 11:28 AM
So, it seems to be a personal attack from the president of the HOA. I guess I didn't realize that before. I just figured they removed any lockboxes that didn't belong to a unit that was for sale.

Does the organization your husband is a part of have consumer advocates. For example, I worked at the Paralyzed Veterans of America and if you had an ADA issue, they would help you with their attorneys to try to get a compromise. Sometimes having an organization on board will spur people along when one person won't. Like I said previously, your local Center for Independent Living should also help with this because their goal is to keep your husband at home as long as possible.

If there's no talking to them, then you may have to pursue legal action. It seems silly over a door lock, but if they are really that disinterested in finding a solution than that may be the way to go. But see if you can get help from an advocacy group to minimize your out-of-pocket expense on it.

I have just dealt with a lot of people who are ignorant to ADA accommodations, either with folks in wheelchairs when I worked at PVA or with my friend who is blind, that I always suggest education as a first step. Nine times out of ten, it has worked for me. Unless folks know someone who has a disability, there is a lot of ignorance about accommodations.

Unfortunately our BOD ( and I use to serve with these folks years ago ) really have a hard time accepting they may not know for fact what is illegal etc. One of our homeowners was renting out her unit this last year. There was suspicion of multiple families living in the unit according to our current president. OUR HOA PREZ.. posted on our website and sent emails to all those who are listed in the directory ( including me ) indicating unit # ( fake unit ) 345 was living with 10 + people and gave the numbers for the city etc. Truth is.. the original homeowner who was renting was never notified of such concerns, someone forwarded the email to her and now.. our HOA BOD is being looked at for liable and suit. Turns out there were mulitple family members visiting on vacation last summer and this is what prompted the Pres bizarre email approach with personal unit # and unproved claims. Oddly enought there was an attempt to remove this person from our board but the vote was pretty much 49% remove 51% keep. People also didn't want to step up and be burdened with "being on the board". But it looks like she is a liability in my eyes.

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