Albert,
You should try to work with the couple if possible. The Board should always be polite but firm when needed.
Per
VA ยง 55-510.1 not only are they allowed to attend but they are allowed to speak at the meetings at appropriate times.
I would suggest that, in accordance with VA ยง 55-510.1 (see earlier link), the Board adopts a policy resolution specifying when non-board member may be heard at board meetings (typically during new business or an open forum). Within this policy specify procedures on how to handle unruly or disrespectful members (polite warning, 2nd warning, removal).
If the members are being abusive and the board meeting is being held in someone's home, I would recommend the following procedure:
1) President politely warns the members to be polite and courteous.
2) If repeated, final warning with the additional remark that if it continues they will be asked to leave.
3) If repeated, President calls for recess of the meeting due to disruptive and abusive behavior and to reconvene once the Mr/Mrs x leaves. Motion is seconded and voted on.
4) Once the meeting is recessed,
Owner of the property politely asks the individuals to leave.
5) If members do not leave, the owner contacts the police charging the individual/s with trespassing (as they have been asked to leave but refused).
6) Police show up and, if needed, escorts the individuals from the property.
7) Meeting reconvenes.
Note: Steps 1-3 should be recorded in the minutes with the name of the members identified.
Steps 4-6 is a personal matter between the owner of the property the meeting is held in and the individuals who were asked to leave (these steps
are not an association issue).
Again, try and work with the individuals first.
When we have members attend, we always open the floor first allowing them to speak about any issues they may have first and then politely thank them and invite them to stay while the meeting continues but that they are welcome to leave at anytime if their schedule doesn't allow them to stay.
If the issue they bring up is one that needs further investigation, we actually ask them if they would like to be on a committee to investigate the issue (usually they back off, sometimes they step up and help).
If the issue is violations of others, we inform them of the procedure to use.
If the issue is something already on the agenda, we will skip to that item and discuss it then OR inform them that the item is already on the agenda and will be discussed later in the evening.
Hope this helps,
Tim