LisaS (Illinois)
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Posts: 341
Posted:
It's been a while since I have posted, but my situation has only gotten worse. I will be brief (or at least as brief as possible ;-)
Our Board has had serious turmoil. Last year we had a member who chose not to participate because of his dislike for me (also a Board member). No attempt was made to remove him because the other Board members thought 'out of sight, out of mind' was a good policy.
In October we had a new election- I supposedly lost by one vote. However we had non-deeded owners who voted, one ballot that suddenly 'appeared', and proxies that were not validated (one of which was a fraud). All in all, a mess. The Board consulted an attorney to determine whether a new election should be held. They were contacted by our 'non-participating' Board member and given a whole list of 'facts' that were untrue in order to get the opinion he wanted of her (valid election-me off the Board). He's an attorney too...so why would he lie, right? I took the high road and rather than fight and cost our association a whole lot of money I let it go.
Of course, then I found out that this same man was going door to door with a 'packet' of information containing lies, misinformation, and anything else he could make up to slander me. Many people don't know me, so they don't know what to believe. And he's an attorney, right...why would he lie?
I went to our first meeting of the 'new' Board today, and he is back to being an active member. He and the woman he got elected made sure to have the audience filled with 'friends'. I of course was bombarded with nasty coments- and nasty looks because people believed the information he distributed. He even admitted openly that he had given this 'information' to 120 of my neighbors. (my attorney will appreciate that I am sure)
Has anyone else ever dealt with something like this before? If I did the things I am accused of,i would say I deserve it. But they are lies, and I have not done anything wrong. How can I possibly defend myself? How can I live in my neighborhood knowing that so many people think ill of me?
What's even harder is that a motion was made to have a meeting to vote on removing this man because he had been absent for over 50% of the meetings last year, and he had failed to attend the annual meeting (among other things). The current Board 'decided' that they would not respect the petition circulated or the demands of attendees at the last meeting who asked for a special meeting of the members to vote on removal. Two of my former fellow Board members are current members. They were slandered as well, although much less severely. And they let it go, even knowing who he is, and how badly he can damage our association (heck...just my lawsuit alone). Ouch.
Don't get me wrong...I have supporters who think I should have fought the election, that emailed me thnaking me for what I have done, told me how sorry they were for all this drama, etc. But it hurts just the same. Eay to say the people who simply buy into it are stupid and don't matter...another thing to live it.
Has anyone else and what did you do? What would you do?
Our Board has had serious turmoil. Last year we had a member who chose not to participate because of his dislike for me (also a Board member). No attempt was made to remove him because the other Board members thought 'out of sight, out of mind' was a good policy.
In October we had a new election- I supposedly lost by one vote. However we had non-deeded owners who voted, one ballot that suddenly 'appeared', and proxies that were not validated (one of which was a fraud). All in all, a mess. The Board consulted an attorney to determine whether a new election should be held. They were contacted by our 'non-participating' Board member and given a whole list of 'facts' that were untrue in order to get the opinion he wanted of her (valid election-me off the Board). He's an attorney too...so why would he lie, right? I took the high road and rather than fight and cost our association a whole lot of money I let it go.
Of course, then I found out that this same man was going door to door with a 'packet' of information containing lies, misinformation, and anything else he could make up to slander me. Many people don't know me, so they don't know what to believe. And he's an attorney, right...why would he lie?
I went to our first meeting of the 'new' Board today, and he is back to being an active member. He and the woman he got elected made sure to have the audience filled with 'friends'. I of course was bombarded with nasty coments- and nasty looks because people believed the information he distributed. He even admitted openly that he had given this 'information' to 120 of my neighbors. (my attorney will appreciate that I am sure)
Has anyone else ever dealt with something like this before? If I did the things I am accused of,i would say I deserve it. But they are lies, and I have not done anything wrong. How can I possibly defend myself? How can I live in my neighborhood knowing that so many people think ill of me?
What's even harder is that a motion was made to have a meeting to vote on removing this man because he had been absent for over 50% of the meetings last year, and he had failed to attend the annual meeting (among other things). The current Board 'decided' that they would not respect the petition circulated or the demands of attendees at the last meeting who asked for a special meeting of the members to vote on removal. Two of my former fellow Board members are current members. They were slandered as well, although much less severely. And they let it go, even knowing who he is, and how badly he can damage our association (heck...just my lawsuit alone). Ouch.
Don't get me wrong...I have supporters who think I should have fought the election, that emailed me thnaking me for what I have done, told me how sorry they were for all this drama, etc. But it hurts just the same. Eay to say the people who simply buy into it are stupid and don't matter...another thing to live it.
Has anyone else and what did you do? What would you do?
