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PaulM17 (Florida)
Posts: 11
Posted:
If you read thru some of this stuff you get the impression that many people are just looking for a fight. HOA appear to be a place where that people with no life can try and get some. If someone is willing to work for your community for free, why would you want to make problems for that person. Some of the issues on here are over a couple hundred dollars. Why would get your blood pressure up over a couple hundred dollars?

Do you actually think that all these HOAs are strickly following the covenants and statutes? NO. They are muddling thru it. Why would you. You don't get paid anything.

Why not just be a group of homeowners who have a polite conversation. And what is the point of having a five person board and using parlimentary procedure? That one is real funny.

You know what is happening here. Property management companies and lawyers have got you all so scared that you walk all over one another trying to do the right thing. But what are the consequences? Do you really think someone is going to file a lawsuit on you because you failed to follow the rules exactly?

Take a deep breathe and put it all in pespective. It doesn't pay you anything and on a dime you can quit.

GlenL (Ohio)
Posts: 5,491
Posted:
Paul, nice rant. It is important because it is the law and FL has some of the strictest in regards to HOA's. People can and have lost their property sticking up for principles, my mom called it: "Cutting off your nose to spite your face."

NOTE it is not wrong to stick up for your principles in the proper manor, it is foolish to ignore letters and fines and hope the whole thing will go away.

Studies show that 5 out of 4 people have problems with fractions
SusanW1 (Michigan)
Posts: 5,202
Posted:
Paul - I'd certainly agree with you IF this were a golf league or the PTA. But we're talking about people's HOME here, and that's pretty serious stuff.
PaulM17 (Florida)
Posts: 11
Posted:
I just don't understand why you would want to be contentious with your neighbors. I understand if someone wanted to paint their home purple...but fighting over minor infractions? And I doubt serious that these folks who are on the board are trying to do the wrong thing. Everyone is going to see things differently but short of a serious mishap, why create contention for everything.
SheliaH (Indiana)
Posts: 6,964
Posted:
Well, what's minor to you could be a major issue to someone else, especially if you're the neighbor living across from or next door to something that's really annoying. That said, I agree that some HOA boards do use a sledgehammer to squash a fly, which is unnecessary and a waste of energy.

As you've seen time and again on this board, the real issue is education. When you live in a HOA, you agree to abide by those rules (some of which you might not agree with). It's been said HOA living isn't a cafeteria - pick up what you like and ignore what you don't. For every heavy handed HOA board that didn't use a lot of common sense, you probably have twice as many homeowners who could have avoided a lot of drama if they'd only stopped for a moment, read the rules and then asked about anything they didn't understand.

As for the rules, if something doesn't seem to make sense (sometimes they're just outdated and need to be deleted), the thing to do is to discuss it with the board of directors (the ones the HOMEOWNERS elect to enforce the rules). Be prepared to come up with some alternatives, as well as rolling up your sleeves to help the board out. If everyone votes one way and you vote another, don't sulk and go on and do whatever you want because "this is MY HOUSE and I'll do what I damm well please."

Or run to the media, whining about how HOAs are "unconstitutional" and all that garbage. If you don't want to be told how many pets you can have or what color your house can be, don't live in that community. There are still some neighborhoods in the country that aren't governed by HOAs - you may have to do a little work to find them.

That's one of my biggest beefs about being a HOA board member - people criticize all day long, but when you ask "do you have any better ideas?" or if they would assist the board in doing some research on which alternative would work best for the community, the response is a deafening silence.

If it is not right do not do it; if it is not true do not say it. Marcus Aurelius
JohnC46 (South Carolina)
Posts: 14,265
Posted:
Quote:
Posted By PaulM17 on 02/14/2012 6:37 AM
I just don't understand why you would want to be contentious with your neighbors. I understand if someone wanted to paint their home purple...but fighting over minor infractions? And I doubt serious that these folks who are on the board are trying to do the wrong thing. Everyone is going to see things differently but short of a serious mishap, why create contention for everything.

Paul

I do agree that many in an HOA soon make it a me versus them over some pretty petty things and many situations could be avoided/resolved if all would just take a chill pill first.

I have learned quite a few things on this site but I also have some issues with it:

1. Many out here perceive themselves as having problems (and some sure do) but the site might also be causing those that do not think they have problems, to go looking for things to make problems of. Many by nature are CCO's..Chief Complaint Officers..and those types go looking for such.

2. Many out here are shopping for the answer they want to hear thus they do not explain it all (as in they hide/ignore facts) in their question thus the answers can be very misleading as was the original question.

3. Many answers can vary from black to white depending on CC&R's, Bylaws, local laws, state laws, etc. Quite often a yes to a question might well be a no to the same question with different CC&R', Bylaws, laws, etc.

As I sid earlier, I have learned much on this site and expect to learn more but one should view this site with a jaundiced eye.

JanetB2 (Colorado)
Posts: 4,219
Posted:
Hi Paul:

When you read through this stuff what you will actually most likely notice is they are not necessarily looking for a fight but instead are initially just angry and frustrated. Sometimes it can be a perceived problem or an actual problem as noted by John. However, in many cases the important aspect is generally after they express themselves, feel that someone has listened, are given potential information which may or may not help, they then usually are less angry and frustrated and can look at the situation with a calmer or maybe different view. While many threads will start angry and frustrated a large number end with individuals less angry and who can approach the issue with a more open or educated mind.

You are correct being on a board is a non-paying and sometimes thankless job. If someone is an individual who likes to be stroked and patted on the back, then being on an HOA board is the last place they want. The best board members are those who do the job and incur self satisfaction, they do not require pats on the back and just know inside they did their best for both their property and their fellow home owning members.

Communities have choices to make it easier or harder on them. One method to make it easier is going through your documents and those responsibilities which can be placed elsewhere, let them take over the burden. Example: I have read most of the CCR’s for various developments in my area and the vast majority will state: “All dogs must be on a leash.” Well … the city ordinance as soon as a dog steps one paw off your property, guess what, must be on a leash. When an HOA has this same statement in their documents all they are doing is putting the “legal liability” to enforce on themselves. The board instead of telling a Chief Complaint Officer (LOL … good one John) to whip out their cell phone camera, take a picture, and provide it to local authorities with the address of violator … instead must try to bend over backwards, collect evidence, and is legally liable by the CCR’s to pursue otherwise a neighbor can sue other neighbors. My advice would be to work smarter not harder.
JohnC46 (South Carolina)
Posts: 14,265
Posted:
Interesting on the dog leash law. Our HOA and the town have a leash law.

I live down at the still being worked on, some empty lots, pond end of our HOA. Many do bring their dogs down here and let them run loose.

My attitude is I will not raise the issue but it would have to be dealt with if someone did raise it. If asked how to deal with it I would suggest we simply inform/remind all of the leash law such in our next newletter/mailing. I say simple, polite, and not personal is the first line of defense.

The 2nd is calling Mario from Cleveland in...as in he will cure our youse guys problems...LOL

BrianB (California)
Posts: 2,820
Posted:
Paul, i can tell you the bottom line, basis, crux of the issue, and you said it.

You said (and I didn't quote, so forgive the inexactness) that you could see all the energy being spent for something like someone painting their house purple, but not for many of the petty things that seem to arise.

And I am one of those people who believe that what color you paint your home IS a petty thing. It has no bearing on my life, or my enjoyment of it. What should I care what color your home is?

So, the one thing that you think might be important enough to have a rule and a penalty and and active HOA board to enforce is one of the "stupid" rules I personally feel is petty.

And that, right there, that difference of opinions, is what makes horse races and HOA boards.

PaulM17 (Florida)
Posts: 11
Posted:
Most people would agree that the color of paint is not petty. However, notifying management that so and so is in violation because they place a temporary political sign on their property. I mean some things can be overlooked and some stick out like a sore thumb. You have to be able to use general consensus common sense.
JanetB2 (Colorado)
Posts: 4,219
Posted:
Paul:

That is one of my points. Most cities govern political signs in yards and they have generally become more strict over the last few years. If this item then is removed from CCR's then your board would have not have an issue as you tell the complainer to please feel free to call the city and report the offense. An HOA can make things easier or harder on themselves and those who volunteer and are elected to the board by reviewing their CCR's. I like the "keep it simple" method. Individuals then do not have as big of an issue in volunteering because they are not fighting with homeowners on certain petty issues which are already governed by another entity.
BrianB (California)
Posts: 2,820
Posted:
Quote:
Posted By PaulM17 on 02/15/2012 8:00 PM
Most people would agree that the color of paint is not petty. However, notifying management that so and so is in violation because they place a temporary political sign on their property. I mean some things can be overlooked and some stick out like a sore thumb. You have to be able to use general consensus common sense.

Thanks for making my point...

1) Can you provide data to support your claim that most people agree that color of paint is not petty? Or is that an opinion, or unsupported statement?
2) What you feel "can be overlooked" and what you feel will "stick out like a sore thumb" are opinions. You have one. I have one. The fact that they likely differ is why there is such an "uproar" about HOA's.
3) Please provide examples of general consensus common sense. Not opinion, but things that in general, are common sense. then provide a list of things that HOA contracts tend to legislate. You'll see that the two don't overlap a lot.

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